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Are You Missing the Now Moments of Your Life?

Now Moments are the very essence of life and the more you recognize when a Now Moment is happening in your life, the more you will enjoy life and create the Legacy Life you’ve always wanted.

In this this article we’ll talk about Now Moments – what they are and why they matter – and I’ll give you some ideas for how you can enjoy more Now Moments in your everyday life.

Now Moments

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What is a Now Moment?

A Now Moment is an instant in life when you pause and are consciously aware of what’s happening to you ‘in this moment’.

Ferdinand understood Now Moments!

You can also think of Now Moments as taking time to ‘stop and smell the roses’ or ‘enjoying the journey of life’ or any number of other cliches that help you appreciate the present moment. After all, when we recognize that all we have in life is ‘this moment’ then we can begin to appreciate why it’s so critically important to enjoy the special moments of life while you are living them – because they don’t last forever.


Do Now Moments Only Occur During Special Occasions?

It’s a common misconception to believe that only special occasions and big events are the triggers that create Now Moments. Nothing could be further from the truth!

Sure, special events like going on a Disney Cruise, enjoying an amazing dinner with friends and family, and similar situations can provide us with opportunities for Now Moments but that’s mainly because, when we are experiencing a special occasion, our minds are more attuned to paying attention to the fact that something important IS happening and therefore we are more apt to recognize Now Moments at those times.

HOWEVER, if we only ever look for Now Moments during the special occasions of life, we’ll miss out on 99% of the Now Moments that happen in our life because the fact is that each and every day there are plenty of opportunities to enjoy Now Moments…

…but only IF you actually recognize them, pause, and take the time to savor them.


Examples of Now Moments in Every Day Life

The opportunity to experience a Now Moment is limited only by your ability to recognize them and take the time to enjoy them because Now Moments literally occur countless times every day.

Here are some examples of Now Moments from everyday life that I’ve savored recently – perhaps it will give you some ideas as well…

Now Moments
Jax learning to be a chef
  • Cooking a langostino pasta dinner with my son Jax;
  • Enjoying a relaxing glass of wine after dinner on the back patio with my wife Anne;
  • Sitting quietly with my 14-year old Yorkie Bella and speaking words of blessings over her;
  • Coaching a T-Ball game and witnessing one of my players who usually chases butterflies around actually pay attention and making a nice catch;
  • Helping my 5-year old JeeHo make a Minecraft YouTube video;
  • Watching my brother in law Eli create a beautiful painting of a country farm in just a few minutes – check it out…
Eli paints a country farm
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  • Making our first fire of the year in the fireplace of our backyard barn;
  • Grilling with my friends Mark and Ben and arguing about who makes the best chicken wings (it’s obviously me!);
  • Watching Jax sand the wood on his shadow box creation at Cub Scouts;
  • Volunteering at my son’s school (the amazing North Tampa Christian Academy) and sharing tidbits of wisdom with the students;
  • Talking about our day as a family during our nightly bedtime ritual;

And the list goes on and on.

Does it give you any ideas for some of the Now Moments in YOUR life?


Keeping Track of Now Moments

Although you certainly don’t need to formally keep track of your Now Moments in order to enjoy them, I like doing this. As you may recall, I’m a big believer in Tony Robbin’s wisdom…

“If your life is worth living, it’s worth recording.”

Tony Robbins

As a result, I like to keep track of the Now Moments that occur in my life in my daily journal (BTW I use Google Docs for my journaling now because I can access my journals on any device and record them at any time).

I also like using the free mobile app called Daylio to make notes on my Now Moments. If you’re not familiar with Daylio read my article about it here.

Daylio Mobile Journal

Additionally I like talking about Now Moments with my family and teaching my children how to recognize them so they can better appreciate their lives from an early age.

What about you – how do you keep track of the Now Moments in YOUR life?


Don’t Just Take My Word for It

Far be it from me to expect you to simply listen to my words of advice when I realize you don’t know me that well. Instead let me recommend another wisdom guru to you – surely you’ve heard what the legendary savant Ferris Bueller had to say on this topic right?

Dr. Ferris Beuller, Esq.

Now Moments in YOUR Life

Perhaps reading this little bit of wisdom is one of the Now Moments in your life today – if so that would be awesome and be sure to let me know in the comments below.

I wonder what other Now Moments are waiting for you today?

~Mike


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Affirmations for Dads – Using the Power of Positive Self Talk to Become a Better Father

Affirmations for Dads

Affirmations for Dads
This article was featured on The Ascent Magazine via Medium

I’ve known about affirmations for years, but (stupid me) I never really believed they were anything more than childish ‘I think… I can… I think, I can, I think I can!’ self-encouragement. It wasn’t until last year that I discovered that affirmations were something more…something truly powerful. I can honestly say that the Affirmations for Dads I’m going to share with you today have made me a better father – and I’m hopeful they can help you too.

If you’re not currently using affirmations as part of your daily routine, then this article is for you. If you’re already using them, then perhaps I can give you a few more ideas to expand your affirmations repertoire.

Editors Note: I talk a lot about “Living a Legacy Life” on this blog. If this is a topic that interests you, be sure to not only follow this blog but also join the Your Legacy Life Facebook Group.


Affirmations – What Are They?

I wrote a more detailed article about all the ins and outs of affirmations in general and you can read it here:

https://thathelpfuldad.com/79-affirmations-that-will-transform-your-reality/

In the interest of time today, let’s just define affirmations as ‘positive self talk that has the power of change your life.’

Now if that sounds like a bit of overhype, don’t take my word for all this. Let me tell you about two triggers that created a change for me as far as affirmations are concerned.

The first was Tim Ferris’ book Tools of Titans. If you are not familiar with it, I suggest you read my review here:

https://thathelpfuldad.com/product/tim-ferris-tools-of-titans-book-review/

The second trigger was the website balanceinme.com and specifically the many free affirmations audio and video meditations they offer. Here is one example: http://balanceinme.com/positive-thinking-affirmations

After reading Tim’s book and then consistently listening to the affirmations on the BalanceInMe website I started to notice some positive changes in my outlook on life. That’s when it hit me…

Affirmations are more than just words. They are form of positive self-talk that carries the power of self-hypnosis with them.

Look, I’m no psychologist (actually my sister is!), and I can’t tell you any scientific research behind this. I’m just an Average Joe who discovered that affirmations made a difference in my life. In fact, the difference was so profound (my anger, frustration, and stress decreased, and my productivity, happiness, and focus increased) that I was able to learn how to be more present and live ‘in the moment’ more with my family. As a father in his mid-40’s who has 2 young (read high energy) boys, that’s kind of a big deal.

My hope is that by sharing these affirmations with you today, you will be able to create positive change in your life too.

Here’s my son Jax and I planting a tree – a fun, in-the-moment activity

10 Life-Changing Affirmations for Dads

  1. I am an awesome father.
  2. My children KNOW I love them and that I BELIEVE they can accomplish ANYTHING.
  3. My children love me and I actively support their dreams.
  4. I actively support my children’s goals and DO the things they want to do.
  5. My legacy life goal is to help my children achieve their dreams.
  6. I choose to spend time with my children and I seek out their company.
  7. I am actively engaged with my family and they KNOW I love them because I spend time with them and I am fully present when I am with them.
  8. I know that where I spend my time, there my heart is, so I choose to spend time with my family.
  9. I am a source of wisdom, love, and encouragement for my children.
  10. My children and I have a special connection of spirit that goes beyond just father-child, we are eternal spirits who will always be together.

This is just a small list of Affirmations for Dads. I’m sure you can come up with a lot more.

Now that you have the affirmations, you need to know how to use them too.

Here’s what I do…

How to Use Affirmations for Dads Effectively

A Simple Three Step Process

  1. First I write the affirmations as part of my “SMART” Morning Routine. I write THREE affirmations each morning and I use them to specifically focus myself on key areas that I believe will help me ‘win’ the day.
  2. Next, I incorporate some simple Breath Meditation into the process — I sit quietly, use my breath meditation, and repeat each of the Affirmations for Dads three times. I try to visual each affirmation in my mind’s eye — my goal is to see myself living the affirmation. At the same time, I try to get my mind, body, and soul (yes, all three) to encode what it feels like deep within my personal DNA, because I know that when I do this, the affirmation has a greater chance to become a reality.
  3. I also try to keep every one of my Affirmations for Dads on a google doc that is connected to all my mobile devices. Throughout the day, when I have downtime, I refer back to the doc, remind myself of the affirmations and repeat them to myself.

Use this process, or a version of it that works for you, and you’ll soon realize the true power that affirmations hold.

I wish you all the best.


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12 Proverbs That Will Make Your Life Better – The Wisdom of Solomon

Proverbs – The Wisdom of Solomon

Proverbs is one of my favorite books in The Bible – it’s filled with the Wisdom of Solomon and I’ve written numerous articles about all the great wisdom tidbits from this book that you can use to live a Legacy Life.

Today I thought we’d try something new – A Picture Essay that shares The Wisdom of Solomon and Proverbs. For each picture, I’ll provide one quote from Proverbs and where applicable a link for further reading on the topic.

Editor’s Note: This article will expand over time as I add more pictures to the essay so be sure to bookmark this page and check back often.


Proverbs 16:3

Proverbs 16:3 “Commit to the Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.”

Proverbs 15:32

Proverbs 15:32 “He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/being-disciplined-now-can-lead-to-good-things-later-if-you-learn-from-it/

Proverbs 15:22

Proverbs 15:22 “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/the-value-of-advice/

Proverbs 16:9

Proverbs 16:9 “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.”

zeal without knowledge

Proverbs 19:2 “It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/you-cant-rush-greatness/


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Proverbs 12:11

Proverbs 12:11 “He who works his land will have abundant food, but he who chases fantasies lack judgement.”

Better to be a nobody with a servant

Proverbs 12:9 “Better to be a nobody with a servant than pretend to be somebody and have nothing.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/king-solomons-tips-on-money-management-part-1/

pride goes before a fall

Proverbs 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Proverbs 9:9

Proverbs 9:9 “Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/where-do-you-find-wisdom/

Proverbs 17:17

Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

Read more: https://thathelpfuldad.com/how-to-make-more-friends/

Proverbs 16:16

Proverbs 16:16 “How much better it is to choose wisdom than gold, to choose understanding than silver.”

Read More: https://thathelpfuldad.com/get-wisdom-get-wealth-the-solomon-series/

Proverbs 18:2

Proverbs 18:2 “A fool finds no pleasure in understanding, but delights in airing his own opinion.”


More about Proverbs and the Wisdom of Solomon

https://thathelpfuldad.com/the-purpose-of-proverbs-to-help-you-make-the-world-a-better-place/

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5 POWER-ful Tools to Overcome Life’s Challenges

Public Speaking… Losing Weight… Closing a sale… Hitting a Curveball… The list goes on…

All of us face difficult challenges in our lives and that’s not likely to change anytime soon. Unfortunately, all too often we allow the illusion of difficulty to discourage us — which in turn leads to feelings of frustration, causes us to complain, lose focus, and makes us just want to give up.

But what if there was a set of powerful tools that would allow us to consistently overcome our challenges?

The good news is that five such tools exist, and more importantly, YOU already possess them! In this article, we’ll discuss each of these skills and how you can apply them to make your life better.


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5 POWER-ful Tools to Overcome
Life’s Challenges

Tool #1: The Power of Your Mind

It all starts here. If you believe something is too difficult, then you’re setting yourself up for failure before you even begin. You know the old adage from Confucius, “the man who thinks he can, and the man who thinks he can’t, are both right.” Which one do you want to be?

OK, so you have a task that seems difficult, maybe even impossible at first glance. Sure you could allow that thinking to control you — sending you careening down the path of disappointment. But why not change your mindset? Why not take control of the situation with your mind. Here’s how…

  • Step 1: Recognize that Difficulty is just an illusion because…

Everything is difficult… until it becomes easy ~ Dan Millman, Body Mind Mastery

  • Step 2: Take action. Stop thinking about how hard the task it and just get started. The sooner you DO something, and focus your attention on the task, the sooner you can stop letting fear of the task control you. This action could be as simple as putting together a game plan, writing that first line of your story, or trying your first pushup — it doesn’t matter what you do, it just matters that you DO.
  • Step 3: Keep taking consistent, focused action on the task until after you cross the finish line. Maintain your mental focus on action and two things will happen. First off, there won’t be any room in your mind for the Illusion of Difficulty to take root. Secondly, your actions will move your closer to your goal. As you begin to recognize that you’re actually ‘doing it’ (whatever ‘it’ may be), you’ll gain the confidence you need to conquer your mental dragons and complete your quest.

Good news – you already possess the power of your mind!

Remember, when you were a baby, you couldn’t walk; there was a time as a kid when you didn’t know how to tie your shoes or add 2+2, and once upon a time you didn’t even know how to read. But you found a way to overcome each of those obstacles, didn’t you? That’s because when you were a kid you didn’t let your mind discourage you because you didn’t know any better — you simply kept trying and believing.

Maybe it’s time to rediscover that belief in yourself?


Tool #2: The Power of Preparation

When you invest the time to build a solid foundation, you provide yourself with the building blocks needed to overcome both simple and complex challenges.

  • Wait, isn’t taking time to plan just delaying action? Actually no. I would submit to you that the process of planning is very action oriented. Planning is itself a task — a very important one because it provides us with a roadmap to reach our goals.
  • Furthermore, when you focus your mind on building a good plan, you’re actively seeing yourself overcome difficulties and ultimately achieving your goal —this is because the very nature of planning requires that the final step is the successful execution of your goal. Seeing this on paper can be a powerful catalyst, propelling you forward with confidence to take further action. Armed with your plan, that action will be focused on the right tasks needed to overcome any obstacles that stand in your way.

  • So you wanna hit that curveball? Then learn (and practice!) the basics of hitting: having a balanced stance, how to swing the bat correctly, and of course watching the ball all the way to the bat. These simple things are easy to overlook but critical to success. Sadly one of the biggest fundamentals of hitting that is rarely even taught nowadays (at any level) is how to ‘bunt’ a baseball — a skill that absolutely requires you to learn how to focus and watch the ball hit the bat in order to succeed. Unfortunately, with less time devoted to practice because of the pressures of immediate competition, coaches tend to take shortcuts on fundamentals like bunting, proper base running, and even using two hands to catch. That’s a shame because the loss of these basic skills in a player’s talent foundation (i.e. a lack of proper preparation!) leads to problems later.

Don’t let this happen to you. Whether you’re trying to hit a ball or land a new job, always invest the time to build a good plan. It’s often the difference between success and failure.


Tool #3: The Power of Simplifying Things

ANY challenge that appears complicated CAN be simplified. The key is to break it down into smaller “bite-sized” chunks so you can take a step-by-step approach.

Wanna lose weight? Starving yourself (i.e. trying to do it all at once) rarely works. Instead, come up with a plan that simplifies the process. Recognize that you can’t climb the mountain overnight, but you can take the first step, and the next, and the next. Rather than focus on the giant, seemingly out of reach, I’ll-never-get-there goal, instead focus on the little things you can do.

  • Build a SMART (1) plan whose blueprint is a series of small steps, that if done correctly, will by definition, lead to the achievement of your goal. Your steps may include portion control, reducing some of your junk food, adding in some physical activity, working with a partner or coach for motivation, etc. By following a gradual, methodical, building block process based on smaller Oh-I-can-do-that steps, you will reach your weight loss goal over time. (1: SMART stands for ‘specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound’).
  • Better still is this — by using a series of smaller steps, you’ll be creating a series of habits that will, in turn, result in a lifestyle change. Why is this important? Because that lifestyle change will ensure that your bad eating habits don’t rebound later, so you can continue to live in your success zone.

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  • Also, more steps give you more opportunities to celebrate success, which in turn makes you feel better about yourself and inspires you to keep going. Before you know it, you’ll reach your goals.

Tool #4: The Power of Advice

There is no need to try to solve every problem by yourself. If someone else has already invented the wheel, then use their wisdom and move on. Don’t waste time because your pride won’t allow you to ask for help.

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened ~ Jesus, The Gospel of Matthew (7: 7–9)

  • Need to solve the Pythagorean Theorem for your geometry class? If you don’t understand the math text, seek guidance from your teacher, tutor, fellow students or even sources like The Khan Academy or YouTube — the answers are out there, all you have to do is ask.
  • Need to close more sales at work? Stop doing the same old thing if it’s not working. Instead, try reading a book (Zig Ziglar’s Secrets of Closing the Sale would be a good start), investing in a sales training course, and/or finding a mentor (and then mimic what they do). Arm yourself with wisdom and then practice, practice, practice. You’ll gain the skills and confidence you need to succeed — and in sales, the mental game is 90% of the battle.

Tool #5: The Power of Action

Although we’ve already talked about Action, it’s such a powerful tool (perhaps the most powerful!), it really needs its own section.

  • President Teddy Roosevelt said, “Do what you can, with what you have, wherever you are.”
  • Success guru Tony Robbins often talks about the importance of ‘taking massive, determined action’ as the key to achievement.
  • The message is clear — you can’t get anything done unless you “Just Do It.”
  • Whatever your goal, don’t wait, get started by taking action (any action) today — you’ll be one step closer to your goal.

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Afraid of public speaking? Here’s your first step: stand in front of a mirror and just read a book. (Surely you can do that, right?) Next time, casually talk to yourself in that same mirror. (Also doable). Then write a few notes on a card and use that to speak to Mr. Mirror again. Then try it live with your pet. Then one friend. Then two. And so on. In no time at all, you’ll be delivering a keynote address to a group of 500!


Is life difficult?

Yes. And it will continue to be because that’s just how it goes.

BUT — can you overcome any challenge?

Yes, yes, and double-plus-yes!

I believe you can do it. Now it’s time for YOU to believe in yourself as well.

BONUS — A Competitive Edge?

I’ll leave you with one final thought — sadly most people won’t take the time to overcome their difficulties. That’s a shame, but it’s also an opportunity… for you.

Once you start using these 5 POWER-ful tools to consistently overcome life’s difficulties, you’ll be giving yourself a competitive advantage — once you can hit that curveball, or deliver a good speech, or get your weight under control, or close more sales, you’ll make yourself more valuable to your team, your company, and yourself. Success begets more success and before you know it you’ll be living your best life now. That’s pretty freakin’ awesome!

As Albert Einstein said, “In the middle of difficulty, lies OPPORTUNITY.”

My question to you is this – what current challenge are YOU facing and can you use these POWER-ful tools to turn it into an opportunity?


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