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How to Live a Legacy Life

Are YOU living a Legacy Life? What does it even mean to live a Legacy life? In this article, we’ll talk about the concept of Living a Legacy Life; more importantly I’ll give you tips that can help you identify what you want YOUR legacy to be and ideas for how you can spend more time on actually living your legacy life.

Read the word carefully – the word order is important here

Editor’s Note: If you’re looking for a bit of wisdom for life, perhaps some of the tips on this page can help you. If you find something that’s particularly helpful, be sure to let me know with a comment below or send me an email, and also share the wisdom with a friend so they can benefit as well.


What is a Legacy Life?

Let’s get started by defining what a legacy life is. I would suggest we use the following: “a life that has a positive impact on someone else.”

I added the ‘positive’ wording because I believe most of us would like to have a beneficial impact on others and I’m hoping that’s how you feel too.

Could we peel back the onion on our legacy life definition? Obviously. But rather than get into the weeds, I suggest we just go with that simple definition for our purposes today. Cool?

Do you have to be famous to leave a legacy?

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that people like Ben Franklin, Leonardo Da Vinci, Isaac Newton, Marie Curie, and countless others of their ilk created a legacy that included FAME and individuals like this will long be remembered for the legacy they created. The world owes them a debt of gratitude for the work they left behind and untold millions of people continue to benefit from their legacies.

But what about Average Joes like you and I? Do we have anything to look forward to from a legacy perspective?

I’d argue that one need not be famous in order to live a life that creates a legacy. Instead I believe we all have the opportunity to live a Legacy Life because every one of us can do something that has a positive impact on someone else.

So ask yourself – what will YOUR legacy be?

Wait, perhaps the better question is…

What do you WANT your legacy to be?

If you already know what you want your legacy to be, then more power to you – you’ve already completed the first steps towards living a legacy life. However if you don’t know what you want your legacy to be it will be very difficult to live a legacy life because you won’t know what actions to choose to do (because they will help you create your legacy) and what actions to avoid doing (because they pull you further away from your goals).

For most of my life I didn’t know what I wanted my legacy to be. As a result, I wasted a lot of time and effort pursuing activities that ultimately had nothing to do with my legacy life goals and therefore left me unfulfilled.

Don’t let that happen to you.

There’s a bit of Confused Joey in all of us, right?

How Did I Figure out my Legacy Life Goals?

It wasn’t until my early 40’s that I finally figured out what I wanted my legacy to be. That’s a shame because I obviously wasted a lot of time I can’t get back. But it can be different for you – with a bit of wisdom and direction, you can find out your own legacy life goals sooner and live your legacy life longer.

How did I finally figure out my legacy life goals? How can YOU?

I followed the advice and example of mentors like Tim Ferriss, Tony Robbins, and yes even Leonardo Da Vinci – I spent time journaling, free writing, meditating, and thinking about what I wanted out of life and how I wanted to be remembered when I was gone.

The more time I invested in these activities, the more clear my vision of my ideal legacy life became.

I suggest you do the same. Consider doing any of the following activities (or better yet ALL of them)…

Tim Ferriss discusses his morning routine
My personal morning routine
  • Pick a book from Tony Robbins and actually DO the ‘life design’ exercises (my favorite is still Awaken the Giant Within).
  • Start a journal (I actually use Google Docs to journal online so it’s available on all my devices whenever I think of an idea or want to write no matter where I may be). One of the best ways to discover your hidden legacy life goals is to engage in free writing.
    • What is free writing? Basically you just start writing and don’t stop until you run out of ideas. You don’t worry about punctuation, you don’t worry about format, you don’t worry about spelling, you just write.
    • You’ll be amazed at the ideas that emerge from deep within you when you just allow yourself to relax and write and see what comes out.
    • I wonder – what ideas are hidden inside YOU? Don’t you want to find out? Your legacy life goals are there, waiting for you to discover.
  • Read the book How to Think Like Leonardo Da Vinci (it may sound corny but it’s actually really productive AND fun). Who knows maybe there’s an artist inside you yet?
  • Meditate – it doesn’t have to be hardcore “OM” meditation like a Buddhist monk (although that’s cool too); it can just be you spending time alone, focusing on your breath for a few minutes, and allowing your mind to relax. I’ve found that once we disengage our minds from the everyday bustle of life, there’s a lot of great ideas floating below the surface consciousness that start to emerge – many of these ideas are likely related to your legacy life. Meditation helps to unlock them.
  • Keep this bit of wisdom always in view from the Gospel of John: “Do not work for food that spoils but for food that endures to eternal life.” (John 6:27) Think about how you spend your time. Are you wasting your time/life on that which is fleeting? Or are you planting seeds that will produce fruit that lasts beyond just your life? Creating food that endures is the key to achieving your legacy life goals.

What’s the bottom line on how to discover your legacy life goals?

Find out what activities work to help you discover your legacy life goals and keep doing them so that you can gain a clear vision of what you want your legacy to be.


What are the benefits of KNOWING your Legacy Life Goals?

When you become more aware of what you want my legacy to be, you will feel more empowered about life in general. Why? Because when you know your legacy goals, you’ll enjoy a significant benefit related to how you spend your time…

You will know that IF you make conscious decisions every day to DO the activities that are related to your legacy, THEN you will be actively LIVING your legacy life.

That’s an awesome feeling.

It’s a FULFILLING feeling.

And perhaps just as importantly, because you’ll have this clear-eyed view (@JalenSmith) of your desired legacy, you will also be able to make conscious decisions each day on what actions to avoid. For example…

  • various time-suck activities;
  • pursuing seemingly easy but ultimately unfulfilling goals;
  • mindlessly chasing after money;
  • wasting time on TPS Reports 🙂
  • Etc, etc, etc.

If certain daily activities are not related to your legacy goals then you should try to avoid doing them as much as possible.


What are my Legacy Life Goals?

Because I always try to be honest and transparent with you on this blog, I will share my legacy life goals with you. Although they may not mean much to you, perhaps they will give you some ideas that you can use in shaping your own legacy goals.

Michael’s Legacy Life Goals are…

1-Family Goals: each day I strive to be an awesome husband & father – that means spending time with my family and being actively involved in their lives every day. Here are a few examples…

  • Ideally I try to have a specific action item for each person every day. For example taking a walk with my wife, reading a book with my 5 year old, drawing with my 10 year old, and getting kisses from my little yorkie Bella. It doesn’t have to be complicated because all these little things add up to a lot over time.
  • I also try to consciously savor the “Now” moments of every day life by taking a mental snapshot of the moment while I am living it and encouraging my loved ones to recognize the moment as well. This helps to create a string of lasting memories for all of us that build a mutual legacy.
Alec has the right idea…
  • Finally, my family goals also include helping each member of my family identify and develop a plan to reach their own legacy life goals. I’m trying to position myself as a ‘foundation of resources’ that family can build upon to pursue their own legacy (whatever that may mean for them).

2-Body-Mind-Spirit Goals: every day I strive for continuous self-improvement in the three areas of Body, Mind, and Spirit as I endlessly pursue the noble but unattainable vision of becoming a Body-Mind Master. This includes individual goals related to fitness, meditation, spirituality, and overall continuous self-improvement. I won’t bore you with specifics here because I’m sure you already have your own goals related to these categories, but I would point out that this is a THREE-Prong approach: building up your body and mind is great, but don’t forget to develop your spiritual relationship too.

Spending time each day ACTIVELY trying to grow closer to God can have profound positive effects on all the other areas of your life too. Try it. You’ll like it 🙂

3-Novel Writing: I enjoy writing books. So far I’ve written a handful of them and while none have made it onto any best-seller lists, I still enjoy pursuing the craft of writing because I feel that God has blessed me with a treasure trove of creative story ideas and a passion for exploring them. And so I write.

  • Ideally I write every day. It may not be a lot – in fact it usually isn’t — but at least it keeps me in touch with my stories.
  • I write for my own self-happiness and also in an effort to emotionally touch others (thus the legacy impact).
    • To be completely honest with you, had I known my legacy life goals sooner in life, I wouldn’t have been in such a rush to leave home and instead would have pursued a career in writing from college. But the past is the past and can’t be changed. I’m grateful that I know my path now and still have plenty of time (hopefully) to pursue it.
  • If you are a writer (or want to be), perhaps the best tip I can give you is one I heard from Tim Ferriss who said “my quota is to write two crappy pages per day. I keep it really low so I’m not so intimidated that I never get started.”
    • Why does this wisdom work? Because the concept of 2 crappy pages of writing per day is achievable and realistic for anyone and when you consistently do it each day over time you end up with a lot of content. Most of it may indeed be crap, but there’s also a lot of gold in there that you would never have written if you weren’t consistent.
  • Here’s a few of my books…
Fantasy Novelette
Lessons about Minecraft & Life
Fictional Trilogy about The Book of Revelation
Life Lessons from our Yorkie Sassy
Book I of a new fantasy series
  • It’s interesting to note that, although I’ve been dabbling with writing for most of my life, I never actually finished any books until I discovered my legacy life goals.
    • In other words, although many of these stories have been with me for years, until I gained that clear-eyed vision of my goals and actually made the conscious decision to work on them I didn’t accomplish anything. I was living the age old cliche “a goal without a plan is just a dream.”
    • After learning how to live my legacy life, I’ve jump-started my writing career — all of these books were written AFTER I turned 40.

4. Self-Actualization Goals: I can’t remember when I first heard about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs (probably about 30 years ago) but this wisdom immediately stuck for me and I buy-in to the concept. If you’re not familiar with Maslow’s work, here’s a helpful graphic…

  • For me personally, anything above the Love/Belonging step relates to living a legacy live, but as relates to the Self-Actualization step specifically, I have certain activities that provide me with a sense of fulfillment.
  • My self-actualization legacy goals are related to pursuing the crafts of cooking, photography, and music/piano.
    • But how are these related to my legacy?
    • Because each of these activities can be shared with others – particularly friends and family and my hope is that by spending time with my loved ones doing these activities, we’ll be creating more of those precious Now Moments and building a stronger mutual legacy together.
  • I don’t get a chance to work on these every day or even every week, but when I do, my day is undoubtedly brighter.
  • What types of Self-Actualization activities are fulfilling to YOU? Is there a way you can spend more time doing them? If so, how much more fulfilling would your life be?

5 – Sharing Wisdom with Others (like YOU): Part of what I want my legacy to be is to be known as a person who shares meaningful advice, helpful tips, and life-changing wisdom with others.

  • That sounds like a tall task, but hey, why not shoot for the stars, right?
  • My goal is to share wisdom with others that’s helped me in the hopes that it will help you too.
  • Often I share life lessons and certain wisdom that I wished I’d known earlier in life because I know it would have made a difference for me – wisdom that, once you know it, can make a difference for you too.
  • My blog ThatHelpfulDad.com, YouTube Channel, books, and other online and real-life activities are often related to this goal and each day I am consciously on the look out to share helpful wisdom with people I run in to (because you never know if the seeds you plan can change someone’s life for the better).

But enough about me. Hopefully this part was helpful to give you some ideas.

Let’s talk more about YOU…


Further Resources to Discover your Legacy Life

Living a legacy life is not complicated. If you simply try to enjoy more of your life as you are living it  — consciously focus on the NOW Moments that occur in your life and happily sharing you time/attention/essence with the ones you love. Spend time DOING your legacy life goals and you’ll find more fulfillment in life.

Here are some additional articles from myself and others about living a legacy life:

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25 Affirmations for Living a Legacy Life

As we continue our series on Affirmations, today we focus on using this positive self-talk to get you in the mindset of building a Legacy Life.

The concepts of building a “Legacy Life” to pass along your wisdom and/or creating “Now Moments” each day is something we’ve discussed on this site many times before and today we’ll review affirmations that you can use to create your personal legacy – based on whatever that means to you.

Editor’s Note: This article is part of a series on Affirmations. For more, visit the main page about Affirmations here:

https://thathelpfuldad.com/daily-affirmations-positive-quotes/

Affirmations for a Legacy Life

  1. My legacy is my family. I am living a legacy life because I am living life with my family and I am fully present when I am with them.
  2. I am happy with my life – I don’t focus on my troubles, instead I focus on what’s good and actively try to cherish the NOW moments that I’m living.
  3. I am content in The Tao – I am where I need to be right now and I am well-equipped to live my Legacy Life.
  4. I am a focused finisher of important tasks related to my legacy goals. I run my race, actively work on my goals, and continue to build a lasting legacy that benefits the world.
  5. I am LIVING my Legacy Life. I recognize Now Moments each day and live them while they are happening.
  6. I am consciously aware of my life’s focus and I spend my time on MY Life’s Path – it brings me fulfillment.
  7. I eliminate all tasks that don’t relate to my legacy life goals.
  8. In spite of obstacles, I will continue to find a way forward on my Life’s journey. I will keep advancing, keep running the race, keep living in this moment because NOW is LIFE.
  9. I know that the more time I spend on legacy goals leads to life fulfillment.
  10. I am happy and content. I don’t need lots of money or possessions to be happy. I live in the NOW moments of life each and every day. I savor the NOW moments because they = Life.
  11. I make rational decisions about the use of my time, money, and opportunities – using a clear eye vision to choose wisely to take advantage of only those options that support my legacy life goals.
  12. I control my time and activities, they do not control me – I am consciously aware of my legacy goals and proactively make decisions about how I am spending my time – if I sense I’m not living in balance, I stop what I’m doing, think, and move forward to a legacy goal.
  13. My verse provides value to the world – I am meaningful and vital to The Great Play.
  14. I am living a legacy life. Everyday is a step in the right direction. If I make just a little progress each day on my legacy goals it’s a positive day.
  15. I live my Legacy Life every day. I am The Legacy. I inspire others to live their Legacy too.
  16. I religiously avoid low-ROI busywork. I am laser focused on my Legacy Life Goals. I do NOT waste time on non-Legacy Life Goals – I simply do NOT do it. Time & Life is too valuable.
  17. I am happy. I am content. I don’t need lots of money and possessions to be happy. I am happy because I am here, NOW, with people I love.
  18. I KNOW my legacy life goals. I FOCUS my time and attention on ‘living’ my legacy life goals.
  19. I am a DOER. I am a creator not a critic. I am a finisher. I am the artist of MY Legacy Life.
  20. All will work out as it should. We are part of the Play of Life and we are contributing our verse and it is good.
  21. I live a legacy life by spending QT with my loved ones, telling them how much they mean to me, and actively helping them achieve their desires.
  22. I am a winner. Things work out for me. God’s Force moves with/thru/in me and guides me thru my Legacy Life Journey.
  23. I am living my Legacy Life. I focus on my Legacy Life Goals by DOING and LIVING them every day.
  24. During periods of self-doubt, I focus on my legacy goals – I KNOW with conscious awareness that my legacy is my destiny, my purpose – doing legacy work is the work of life.
  25. I am successfully climbing the mountain of my Legacy Life every day. No matter how many times I stumble, I continue to get up and I always keep climbing. I KNOW I will reach my destiny.

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4 Tips to Spend More Time on Your Legacy Life Goals

The older we get and the more wisdom we acquire, the more we realize that our legacy matters. How do you want to be remembered?

How you spend your time each day will go a long way towards determining your legacy.

If you’re looking for tips on how to live a Legacy Life, then this article can help you – we’ll talk about the challenges that interfere with our Legacy Life goals, I’ll give you 4 EASY tips you can take action on today that will allow you to spend more time on your Legacy Life Goals, and I’ll also recommend various books and links you can use to learn even more. Let’s get started!

Table of Contents

  • How you spend your time indicates your priorities
  • Living a Legacy Life – The Video
  • Time Waits for No One
  • 4 Easy Tips for spending more time on your Legacy Life goals.
  • Most Important Tip of All
  • Helpful Books about Living a Legacy Life
  • Links to learn more

Editor’s Note: this post was updated February 2019. It is also part of a larger series of articles in our Wisdom for Life series. If you’re facing a life challenge and/or looking for tips to live your best life possible, be sure to take advantage of the rest of the wisdom library. 

The concepts of building a “Legacy Life” to pass along your wisdom and/or creating “Now Moments” each day is something we’ve discussed on this site many times before and you’ll find numerous articles in the Wisdom library or the links below. 

How You Spend Your Time Indicates Your Priorities

Today’s lesson is easy to understand but sometimes hard to put into action.

The questions are simple:

  • Are you satisfied with how you spend the majority of your time?
  • Does the time you spend each day accurately reflect the priorities you’ve set for yourself?
  • Are you spending time on your legacy life goals?

If the answer is ‘no’ it may be a good time to reevaluate things.

The first step towards living a life more focused on building your legacy is recognizing all the many things you do each and every day that are NOT serving any purpose towards your legacy goals. 

If you keep a journal for a week and write down all the time you spend on non-Legacy goals vs Legacy goals, I’d wager you’ll be horrified to see how little time you spend on the life goals that are important to you. I’m not saying this has to be a dear diary journal or one focused on psychoanalysis – just keep it simple, as you go thru the day or at the end of the day, write down the big picture activities that you spent your time one and then review it at the end of the week. If the pictures isn’t good, then use the tips below to change things over time. 

How to Live a Legacy Life 
~The Video

Want to watch this life lesson in video format? Check out this vid from That Helpful Dad’s YouTube Channel….

Time Waits for No One

Remember one of our prior discussions – there is no guarantee of tomorrow. The only thing we know for certain is that we are alive right now, in this moment.

If you spend all of your time on trying to get rich, or watching cat videos on Facebook, or doing any number of things that are time-suck activities NOT aligned with your true hopes and dreams in life then you are robbing yourself (and anyone else invested in that goal) of precious time.

Don’t let the sands in the hour glass of your life slip away from you.

Remember, unlike an hour glass, you can’t flip your life over and get more time because (unfortunately for us) regardless of how we use our time, we can never get it back.

Jesus taught his followers similar wisdom in Matthew 6:21 and Luke 12:34 when he said…

Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

I think it’s fair to say that for many of us, our desired treasures in life would include things like family, legacy life goals, being happy, etc.

Unfortunately, it’s all too easy to become ensnared by the cares of the world. When that happens we often find ourselves giving away our time to tasks that don’t directly support our legacy goals.

Worse yet, we don’t discover this problem until its too late.

Yes we all need to have money to eat and probably the biggest time-suck that impedes the time we have to spend on our legacy goals relates to the things we do to pursue income to provide for our families. By no means am I suggesting that you quit your job and spend all of your time on your legacy goals (although if you could, you may find yourself the happiest of all and I’d be your biggest admirer!), but sadly that option may not be realistic for most people. But what I am saying is this…

If you want to spend more time on your Legacy Life Goals then you that you need to be consciously aware of how you spend your time — especially if your free time is limited.

ACTION TIME:

Each day there are multiple decision points at which you can CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to take a break from your non-legacy tasks and spend a bit more time on your legacy goals. Identify just one decision point each day and you’ll identify 7 more legacy life opportunities each week!

4 Easy Tips to Spend More Time on Your Legacy Life Goals

This is the heart of the article. These are the EASY tips you can use today that will help you life a life more focused on your Legacy Life goals. Use 1 ore more of these tips each day and you’ll be amazed at how your progress on your goals skyrockets!

1- The Intra-Day Just Because

Got a minute to spare at work? Perhaps even an hour? Why not give a quick call to your spouse during a break to say ‘hello?’ Better yet could you meet for lunch?

The same goes if you have kids— could you go to your child’s school and spend lunchtime with them? Think of the happiness you could bring them with such a surprise.

Would any of these really impede your work-day? I’d wager not. But would they make you a winner at the game of life with your family? I’m betting so.

2- Don’t Just Be There, Be Present.

On the weekends, do you find yourself thinking about work while you’re with your family? If so, practice ‘being present’ (AKA totally focused) with whatever activity you are doing with your family.

If you are there-but-not-there then your family is going to know. When that happens it’s like making a mental error in baseball — you went through all the trouble of putting yourself in position to make a great play, but you end up flubbing it because you weren’t paying attention — as a result, you let your team down.

It sucks.

But you can avoid this and become an all-star if simply practice being present so that you can make the most of the precious (and limited) time you do have together.

Consider this — Jesus’ advice above could likely also be translated as ‘where your mind is, there your heart is also.’

Where is YOUR mind — on your legacy goals or somewhere else?

3- Manage Time-Suck with a Plan

Be mindful when things at work are running over-schedule. Pay attention when you know you are doing something that is wasting your time. It’s way too easy to burn an hour or two on things that don’t support your goals and before you know it any free time you had is gone.

I’m not saying you have to be a robot, but I would challenge you to ask yourself a couple questions.

  •  Is the time-suck activity you’re doing now something that can be deferred till tomorrow?
  • Do you really need to watch that cat video for the 10th time? Do you need to spend another hour sharing it and re-watching it with everyone you know?
  • Do you really need to reset your fantasy lineup…again? Does it really make a difference?

Look, I’m guilty of all of these just like you. I’m not trying to be preachy here. I’m simply trying to bring awareness to the issue so we can help each other.

Time-suck is a constant battle — but it’s one we can win if we become aware of it and use simple planning tactics to manage it.

Perhaps the easiest of all is simply to build ‘time-suck’ into your daily plan and compartmentalize it into that time-slot. This could satisfy your need to goof off so that you can better focus on your legacy life goals during the majority of the precious free time you do have. Taking it a step further you might employ some of the 80/20 principles to make better use of your time. Check out this easy to use time management cheat sheet…


4- Climb The Mountain Every Day

If you have specific legacy goals related to accomplishments (writing a book, learning a new language, becoming a better cook, etc), try this tip:

Build in some time EACH day to work on your goal and it will often propel your forward faster over the long term vs. if you just worked on it ‘when you have a lot of time to focus on it.’

The problem with deferring your legacy goals ‘until you have time’ is that all too often you never make time. Before you know it that all-important dream is 5 or 10 years old with little advancement.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

If you work a little bit on your goal each day, you CAN climb that mountain. Each day take at least one simple step on your legacy life goal — if nothing else you’ll keep that goal top of mind. A super easy way to do this is to build time for your legacy life goal into your morning routine — it can make a world of difference and will energize you to do more!

Here’s the Morning Routine I use – it’s based on the philosophies of Tim Ferris and Tony Robbins…


Most Important Tip of All

 
If you take away nothing else from this article know this…

If you don’t take action to control of how you spend your time, the world will do it for you.

The result is that you’ll likely end up spending a lot of your life on things that are not that important in the grand scheme of things and you’ll miss out on living your best life possible. Don’t let that happen to you.

  • KNOW what you want out of life.
  • Keep your Legacy Life goals always on your mind.
  • Consciously make decisions that allow you to spend your time pursuing YOUR goals — not someone else’s.

If you do these things, you’ll not only spend more of your precious time on your Legacy Life goals, you’ll also be happier and more fulfilled – because you’ll live a life that you know is making a difference. And when you do that, you’ll be contributing your verse to the great play of life!

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