If I could go back and tell my younger self that peace of mind isn’t only found by making money or having a good gym workout, but sometimes just by enjoying the noisy sounds of a busy household, he wouldn’t have believed me. This article is about that life lesson.
In this “Life Playbook” entry, I’m looking back at a recent Saturday afternoon where I let the ordinary sounds of my family living their lives spiral me into a “blah” mood. Something I’ve learned over the years it that there’s a specific kind of silence we often chase that doesn’t actually exist. Try though I might, I sometimes fall into this trap, but when I’m at my best I remind myself that the noise that irritates us is actually the heartbeat of our greatest legacy.
As a ‘driver’ personality, I sometimes equate ‘peace’ as a mindset I can achieve ONLY by checking every box on a to-do list and ending the day with a quiet household. I could just finish my chores early… If I can just get the gym… If I can help everyone get their homework done… If… If… If… THEN I can finally relax.
But my perception of a “perfect” day is often a trap — the very sounds that sometimes irritate us are actually the heartbeat of a life well-lived.
The “Blah” Day
Recently, I had what should have been a great Saturday. I finished my morning chores early and the gym was a great option. Even better my boys were around for some basketball shooting or baseball catch. Or maybe we could have cooked dinner together. But instead of leaning into that abundance, I let a wave of laziness take over and spent the afternoon laying in bed doing Sudoku, watching TV, and spiraling into a late nap. None of which made me feel better.
I was jolted about of my nap by the ‘click clack bang’ sounds of my wife in the next room . She was simply doing her own chores and moving things around in her closet, but in my downward spiraling mood, those ordinary sounds felt like an assault on my peace. The sounds of my boys whooping in the driveway playing ball with their friends, further frayed my nerves. I felt the anxiety rise – followed closely by a heavy blanket of depression because I hadn’t “used” my free time “correctly.”
What did I do? I stayed in my room watching TV and self-medicated with a drink and some mindless snacks. I told myself it would quiet the noise in my head – it didn’t work.
What I missed that day a failure to recognize that “peace” isn’t the absence of noise—it’s the presence of perspective.
The Illusion of the “Quiet Life”
If I could go back and tell myself one thing, it would be this: The “click-clack” of your wife in the other room and the “hooting” of your boys sports aren’t distractions from your life. They ARE your life.
We spend so much of our time “laboring for the wealth of this world,” thinking that financial freedom or a perfectly ordered home will finally bring contentment. We sometimes treat our family’s needs and even their mere presence as hurdles to jump over so we can get to ‘our’ goals. But true riches aren’t found in the silence of a finished to-do list; they are grown in the “memorable moments” that often look like interruptions.
When you feel that irritation rising because the house is “loud” or your plans for a “perfect” productive day have shifted into a “blah” afternoon, remember that you are currently living the days you will one day look back on with a bittersweet ache. The anxiety I felt from those “click-clack” sounds was really just my own internal resistance to the “Tao” or the flow of the moment. I was trying to control the environment rather than being grateful for the people in it.
Don’t Miss the Chance to ‘Reset’ the Day
When you find yourself spiraling into that “off” mood—where you’re too tired to move but too restless to relax—you need a circuit breaker.
On that day, I asked myself later…
Could going to the gym have ‘reset’ the day?
Could playing with my kids increased my joy?
Could helping my wife with her chores, brought me happiness?
The answer is almost always YES – well maybe not doing the chores, but hey nobody is perfect right? Even still, the point is that going to the gym (for example) isn’t about the calories burned, but the fact that movement changes your state of mind. When you move your body, you move the stagnant energy that allows anxiety and depression to take root.
When the “noise” of life gets too loud, the solution isn’t to demand silence. The solution is to change your own frequency. Whether it’s a quick workout, a walk with your spouse, or choosing a “Now Moment” with the kids over a mindless snack and a beer, the fact is that you have the power to course-correct.
That Helpful Dad’s Pocket Guide: The Golden Rules for Household Peace
The 10-Minute Movement Rule: If you’re feeling “off” or irritable, don’t give up and lie down to wallow. Move for 10 minutes—walk, lift, or stretch. Movement is the best medicine for a “blah” mood.
Reframe the Noise: Next time you hear the “click-clack” of your family, stop and say a quick prayer of gratitude. That noise means you aren’t alone.
Audit Your “Self-Medication”: If you’re reaching for a drink or a snack because you’re “sensitive” or “anxious,” you’re just borrowing trouble from tomorrow. Choose a “vibrant life” choice instead – one that brings a smile to your face.
Prioritize the “Five Good Minutes”: Even on a bad day, you can find five minutes to truly connect with your kids or spouse. These golden minutes can anchor the day in what matters most.
The Legacy Life Call to Action.
Listen, life is fleeting. Don’t waste another afternoon being “too sensitive” to the sounds of the people you love living their lives.
Your Action Step Today: Go to the “noisiest” part of your house—wherever the kids are playing or your spouse is working—and instead of asking them to quiet down, join them for five minutes. Ask about their day, give a hug, or just sit in the “click-clack” and be grateful you’re there to hear it.
In the long run, that’s the only thing that’s going to matter and you’ll be glad you added to the noise!
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In this guide, I’ll share 10 practical, everyday AI tips—each with a specific prompt or action—so you can start using AI right away to save time, reduce stress, and work smarter.
1. Let AI Manage Your Schedule & Reminders
Problem: Forgetting important tasks or double-booking meetings. Solution: Use AI-powered assistants to automate reminders and manage your calendar.
💡 Try this now: “Hey Google, schedule a dentist appointment for next Thursday at 2 PM and set a reminder 1 hour before.”
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2. Never Take Notes Again—Let AI Do It
Problem: Missing key points in meetings or lectures. Solution: AI transcription tools can record, summarize, and highlight action items.
💡 Try this now: In Gmail, click the “Smart Reply” suggestions when replying to an email.
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Problem: Staring at the fridge, unsure what to cook. Solution: AI meal planners generate recipes from ingredients you already have.
It’s Fast, it’s flexible and it will supercharge your life – it’s The SMART Morning Routine!
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Morning Routine – The Problem
Most AM Rituals require 2-4 hours to complete – most working men and women don’t have this kind of time in the morning. Do you?
Morning Routine – The Solution
The SMART Morning Routine can be completed in a little as 30 minutes and still provide the majority of benefits of longer rituals. How does that sound?
The Dilemma of The Working Class
Morning Routines are all the rage these days – Tim Ferris, Hal Elrod, Benjamin Hardy and many more profess their greatness. Quite frankly there are a LOT of great AM Rituals on the web and I’m thankful to these key opinion leaders who’ve shared their ideas.
Unfortunately what I noticed is that many of the most popular morning routines require a long time to complete – that’s a big problem for working men and women like me who still have 9–5 type jobs, families, and a host of demands on our time.
So what do you do when you still want to enjoy the benefits of a morning routine but don’t have the time?
Simple – create a “S-M-A-R-T” Morning Routine.
The SMART Morning Routine is an AM Ritual for the rest of us : one that fits our busy lives AND still provides us the key benefits of the Morning Routine exercise.
Don’t get me wrong, I would love to be in a position where I can spend 2–4 hours every morning turning myself into the Uber-Human of my dreams. Who wouldn’t want to meditate for 30–60 minutes, workout for an hour, spend another hour thinking about a bucket list item, spend another 1.5 hours being creative, and taking time to enjoy a nutritious breakfast? I’d love the luxury of being able to do all those things, and if I did, I’m 100% certain my life would improve.
But let’s face it, most of us ‘worker bees’ are not yet in a position to spend 4 hours each morning on our AM Rituals — we need routines which are both realistic and achievable for us. We need a Morning Routine that is S-M-A-R-T (specific/simple, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound).
In this article I’ll share my exact plan for how to create your own SMART Morning Routine.
Morning Routine – The Video
The SMART Morning Routine – A Summary
The SMART Morning Routine involves starting the day with as little as 30 minutes of alone time designed to take your productivity to the next level and beyond.
It’s kind of like Abraham Lincoln’s advice about chopping down a tree (you remember that saying, right?)
“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I’ll spend the first four sharpening my ax.”
In this case, the ax to be sharpened is YOU – and we’ll do it in a lot less time too!
By taking just a half hour so-so and doing these two big bucket items, the SMART Morning Routine leaves you a ‘complete’ person, eager to attack the day because you have already completed a few tasks that made you feel great AND you have a clear-eyed vision on what you want to do. Thus you can immediately move forward — already in a highly productive mindset. You feel like you are already a success and that confidence is half the battle to a winning the day.
The SMART Morning Routine
The SMART Morning Routine Put Me Back on Track
I had a big problem last year.
I let myself get uber-busy in with “busybody work” and for a time it took me off my life’s path. Thankfully I read a book called Tools of Titansby Tim Ferris and the wisdom there set me straight (Thanks, Tim!).
I was somebody who already had a morning routine, but over the years it got less and less productive because it lacked balance (it was essentially all work-focused and not ‘me’ focused). I used Tim’s ideas to reset my routine and eventually develop the “SMART AM Ritual.”
Now, by consistently completing the SMART Morning Routine, I’m supercharging my productivity (for work, play, and life) while also actively making myself a better person again.
The result: I’m back on track to My Life’s Journey.
The SMART Morning Routine
My S-M-A-R-T Morning Routine involves 6-7 steps and 30-60 minutes depending on how I feel each morning. It’s highly flexible so I encourage you to modify it to meet your own goals.
Here’s what I do…
1 — Control…Something
(Time Investment: 1–2 minutes)
One little thing — it doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t matter what it is — just get it done.
It could be making a bed, it could be organizing your desk, it could be anything.
It takes all of 1–2 minutes but…it’s one thing DONE.
This is especially helpful for Type-A personalities — when you can control what you can control, and get that 1 easy take completed first thing in the morning, it becomes a success (dare I say “S-M-A-R-T?”) building block that propels you forward into the day — and it makes you feel like “Yes, I can do this!”
And just like that Task #1 is done!
2 — Prime the Body
(Time Investment: 3–5 minutes)
First I do a round of Sun Salutations — this simple yoga routine takes just a few minutes and starts the process of connecting the body with the mind. BTW if you are new to Yoga and want some guidance, there is a great FREE app called “Track Yoga” — it will guide you through the Sun Salutations (with pointers on how to do it right). As a side note, Track Yoga is one of the recommended tools in my 2018 Essential Guide to Awesomeness.
Bonus Tip: Although I’d love to be able to go outside to do my Sun Salutations, that’s not realistic for me yet so I have a couple pics of sunrises hanging on my office wall — they are pics I took myself and they bring me joy by reminding me of special moments in my life. Here’s one…
Next, I do 10 reps of something — pushups, jumping jacks, air punches. Just 10. It’s not a workout, it’s just to get the body ready to go — kind of like priming an engine before you start it. You’ll be surprised how this gets the blood flowing in the right direction.
(OK, for you Seinfeld fans, I’d be remiss if I didn’t give a shout out to Kenny Bania who famously said on the show, “I start out with curls. That’s good for the bicep. I do 10 reps, 2 sets…” After all, everything relates back to Seinfeld, right? Apparently even the Morning Routine).
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3 — Add some Caffeine
(Time Investment: 0)
One cup of black coffee (with cinnamon) does the trick for me. It allows me to keep my intermittent (read: 14–16 hour) fasting going while giving me the energy I need to move through the morning. (Why cinnamon, you wonder? Cinnamon is a natural blood sugar regulator).
This single cup of coffee gives me energy that lasts until I break my fast around 10 am (from about 6 pm the night before). Quick note — the time ‘cost’ is zero because you drink the coffee while doing the remaining tasks.
4 — Prime the Mind
(Time Investment: 10–15 minutes)
I’m all for wisdom. I try to be consciously open to acquiring wisdom from trusted sources (and that includes my own mind). Ever since reading Tony’s Awaken the Giant Within years ago, I’ve been a fan of journaling. I believe in Tony’s adage…
“If you life is worth living it’s worth recording.”
Unfortunately in recent years I let the ‘chores of life’ get in the way of my journaling — foolishly believing that “I didn’t have time to journal” (ah, big misconception — as the Buddhist would say, ‘if you don’t have time for journaling, then you need to journal right now”). Thankfully Tim’s Tools of Titans book reminded me of the benefits and now I’m back with a vengeance.
The Morning Journal is a KEY Part of the AM Ritual
My current version of AM Journal varies depending on the day.
First I write in my journal.
Sometimes I remind myself what am I grateful for (opportunities, something from yesterday, something beautiful I see, etc). Sometimes it’s thinking about specific positive-focused questions like…
“What would make today great?”
“What would set me up for success?”
Other times I write to just clear my mind of a problem or even complaina bit about something to release my frustration (it helps!). When I do this exercise I try to focus on ‘free form’ writing — don’t think, just write — let your mind release its contents (kind of like when Hooper and Chief opened up the guts of the shark on “Jaws”). You never know what you’ll find, but it’s amazing what’s in there. (And no, I haven’t found a license plate from LA yet).
Other times I don’t write in my journal, but instead, exercise what Tim calls the “Idea Muscle” — basically think of a question like…
“What Makes me Content?”
“What’s my Bucket List now?”
“How can I better focus my time to spend more of it on my life goals?”
“How can I spend money to save time?”
And then think of 10+ quick answers/ideas for these questions.
After the journal writing, I think of 3 Affirmations for the day.
These are one liners that I want to speak to myself that focus me for the day. Here are some from yesterday…
“I am vibrantly healthy in mind, body, and spirit.
I am happy — I smile a lot and am content with life.
I don’t need lots of money, possessions, or career accolades to be happy — I don’t need recognition from others to be happy — I am happy because I am alive, my family loves me, and the world is a beautiful place with lots of things to do.”
Finally, I incorporate Tim/Tony’s “3 To Thrive” productivity tool.
Click this pic to read more about the “Three to Thrive” concept
What is Three to Thrive?
Three to Thrive involves writing down 3 action items that are the most important things for me this day. 3 items that, if I accomplish these but nothing else, will still make the day a ‘win.’
It goes without saying that the sooner in the day you start working on your 3 items, the better chance you have to be successful — having this focus early on in the day, can set you up for success.
Once I have this done (and it sounds like a lot but only takes about 10–15 minutes) then I really start focusing on my breathing.
I began this a bit earlier with the sun salutations but now I take it to the next level — breathing deeply while repeating my affirmations (3+ times for each one) and then continuing the breathing exercise while I visualize the “3 to Thrive” actions as already completed.
Let’s spend a moment on this because it’s kind of important. It’s one thing to write down a few affirmations and goals for the day (and if you are not already doing this then just adding them to your morning routine can make a difference), but if you want to get to the next level, then…
Just as importantly as identifying these affirmations and goals, is taking a few minutes to visualize yourself ‘living’ them.
Here’s what I mean:
For the affirmations, use the breath to make the affirmations feel real inside you, as a part of you, nay as ALL of you. Be the affirmation.
For the goals, take some time to focus on each goal, understand why it’s important to you, and then use the breath to get your mind to focus on what it will feel like after you have achieved your goals for the day (“I’m Batman!”).
This psycho-cybernetics step is one of the keys to success because by putting yourself in the ‘already achieved’ mindset half the work is done — the first step on your journey has already been taken, the rest is just continuing the inertia in the same direction until you cross the finish line again (a finish line you’ve already crossed in your mind). You’ll be surprised how this little tweak in the process can rocket your accomplishments to success because of the consistency is adds to your productivity!
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5 — Prime the Soul
(Time Investment: 5–10 minutes)
While continuing the breathing routine, I’ll now complete the process of connecting the body and mind with the soul by ‘seeking wisdom’ from external sources. Here I like to read a chapter from Proverbs and one of The Gospels, and then a verse from The Tao Te Ching. All the while I am focusing on calm breathing.
It’s kind of like an active meditation experience. It’s the top of the pyramid of the ‘priming’ stage and makes me feel connected to (as Douglas Adams would say), Life, the Universe, and Everything.
6 — Pursue Your Passion NOW
(Time Investment: 10–30 minutes)
Like many of you I have a passion, one of my Legacy Life goals is writing.
It’s a passion that brings me contentment, excitement, and makes life fun.
What do I write about?
So far I’ve written a biblical ‘end of the world’ novel called The Last Temptation of John, a non-fiction book on how Minecraft teaches life lessons with my son Jax called Diary of a Minecraft Dad, and a non-fiction book about investing in options with my friend Michael Thomsett (the world’s #1 writer on options education) called The Options Alchemist.
I’m currently writing 2 more books. One is a book about the life lessons I’ve learned from my Yorkshire terrier Sassy (who passed away from the world much too soon) — her book is calledA Life Worth Living. The other is a series of fantasy novels (think JRR Tolkien meets The Bible meets conspiracy theories) called A Grim Future?
If you’d like to read any of them, I’d be happy to give you a complimentary copy — just use my contact form and let me know which one you’d like to read.
The point is that even though writing is very important to me, I kept allowing it to take second place to the typical day-to-day tasks that we worker bees face all too often.
As a result, my writing floundered.
Luckily I realized that if I add it to my morning routine, I can make sure I get a chance to do it every day. Here again, I’m borrowing wisdom from Tim Ferris..
Even if I only write 2 ‘crappy’ pages per day it’s still a win.
Why? because it gets my writing muscle exercised and gives me a chance to write a lot more too. Even if I only write for 10 minutes, I can still get 2 crappy pages in — and that’s a win because it means I’m still making progress, 2 pages at a time. Better yet, I’ve found that just getting started often leads me to continue to write beyond just 10 minutes — sometimes I write more during the AM Ritual, sometimes I write later in the day.
The point is that I get so excited by the process of writing every day that I stay ‘in the zone’ far more often than I ever did before. That’s an even bigger win!
What’s YOUR Passion?
Whatever it may be, make sure your SMART Morning Routine includes some time for it.
7 — 3 To Thrive Completed?
(Time Investment: 2–3 minutes)
This is actually a question I circle back to later in the day.
I like to come back to my AM Journal at the end of the day (or I sometimes do it as part of the AM Journal the following day) and evaluate how I did — just a quick sentence or 3 to follow-up on the day and see if I did what I set out to do or if I missed the mark (and why), so that I do better tomorrow.
This is the full circle technique that is the beginning of the Am Ritual for the next day of the journey.
And that, my friends, is the SMART Morning Routine?
What do you think?
Concerned about your time?
I can appreciate that. Here’s my advice.
First off, if you are keeping track the total time investment for the SMART Morning Routine is 31–63 minutes. Surely that is realistic and achievable for you, right?
If you do not currently have this time in your busy schedule, then I would challenge you to do what I did to make time: as cliche as it sounds, all you have to do is get up 30–60 minutes earlier.
I’ll be honest with you — for the first 47 years of my life, I hated getting up early. If I was up before 7 am I was grumpy. But, I decided to go all in on the Morning Ritual Tim suggested, and to give myself time, I started getting up at 630am.
What do you know, it worked for me. Now I am so in love with this routine (because I can SEE the results) that I usually get up at 6 am — and I usually can’t wait to get out of bed!
You’ll be surprised at how much your productivity for the entire day improves when you invest just 30–60 minutes in some morning “ME” time.
Following this process has led me to dramatic improvements in my productivity of important tasks (AKA the 3 to Thrive items), my writing (much more regular), reduction in stress, and giving me a reason to get up earlier to attack the day.
I’m grateful to have been exposed to this wisdom and I wanted to share it with you too in the hopes that it will make your life better too. Obviously, your routine won’t be the same as mine, but perhaps I’ve given you some ideas to add to your own ritual. If so, that’s a win in my book.
The SMART Morning Routine – It’s Not Rocket Science
No, but it’s simple, it’s quick, it’s incredibly easy to do AND if you follow this plan consistently, it can make a real difference for you — even if you are still a busy worker bee like me.
That Helpful Dad 