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Advice: How to Accept and Give Good Advice

The first step towards gaining wisdom is to recognize the value of advice.

Our life lesson today comes to us from King Solomon who said “Listen to advice and accept instruction and in the end you will be wise” (Proverbs 19:20).


What This Means to YOU…

If you’re like me, you have people trying to give you advice every day.

Unfortunately, if you’re like me, that means you probably also find it difficult to listen to that advice!

If that’s true, it could mean you’re letting a great deal of knowledge just slip through your fingers and that’s a problem because it means you’re making your life harder than it needs to be.

Don’t let that happen to you – learn to accept advice and allow this wisdom to improve your life.

3 Ways to Use This Wisdom Today

  1. Recognize what could be stopping from you accepting advice.
  2. Understand how to recognize good advice from bad.
  3. Use this wisdom to help others.

I-Overcome Your Pride
Perhaps the biggest obstacle that keeps us from accepting advice is our own pride. There are many reasons for this — it could be that we feel like we should be able to figure things out for ourselves, or we foolishly believe our ideas are always better than anyone else’s, or we are embarrassed to ask for help because we don’t want to appear stupid, etc.

Regardless of the reason, the important thing to understand is that when you allow pride to stop you from listening to advice, you end up making your life more difficult than it needs to be because you limit yourself to only one solution source — you! The fact is that nobody knows everything and the sooner you and I realize that, the sooner we’ll know it’s foolish to let our pride stand in the way of gaining knowledge from others.

I know it’s hard, but the next time you find yourself in a situation that you know you could use help with, do yourself a favor, swallow your pride, and be open to letting someone help you.  You’ll be glad you did.

II-Recognize Good Advice
Now that I have you at least willing to listen to advice, let me throw you a curveball – not all advice is good advice and it’s important to have some guidelines for sifting out the good from the bad.

Perhaps the most important thing for you to do is to recognize the SOURCE of the advice – is the advice coming from someone who truly cares about you? If so, then it’s worth your while to at least listen. If not, move on. However, even if the advice is coming from a person you trust, that still doesn’t mean it’s going to help you.  You can recognize good advice by asking yourself a few questions.

Here are some examples…

  1. Is the person giving you advice qualified to provide it based on their own life experiences?
  2. Did the person listen to you and attempt to understand your situation before giving you advice?
  3. Does the advice give you realistic options that you feel motivated to pursue?
  4. Are you certain the person giving the advice is not just trying to take advantage of you?
  5. Does the advice still leave the final decision in your hands?
  6. Does the advice make sense and do you feel good about it in your gut?

These questions are just examples; I encourage you to develop ones that make sense to you — come up with a list of simple and easy to remember questions that you can ask yourself when you are presented with advice. If the advice provided overcomes these Challenge Questions then it’s probably worth listening to.

Remember this — just because you listen to someone’s advice doesn’t mean you necessarily have to follow it — the final decision on what to do remains with you.

One bonus of seeking that advice is that you’ll have more confidence when you do take action to tackle your problem because you’ll know you invested extra time to seek wisdom and that extra confidence could be the final key you need to overcome your obstacle.

III-Provide Good Advice to Others
Let’s face it, the world needs more people who are willing to help others. I encourage you to be one of them.

If you find yourself in a situation where you have the opportunity to give advice to someone else and you have the knowledge you believe could help them, then why not do it? You never know when your words could change or even save somebody’s life so don’t ignore helping someone if you can. That being said, it’s important that you give good advice not just any advice. But how?

For starters, you can apply the Challenge Questions from #2 above to yourself. In addition, you can use this simple formula: Listen First, Advise Second. After all, how can you give advice to someone if you don’t listen and understand their situation? Once you do that you’ll be in a position to know if you can truly help them. If you can, then give them your advice, but be sure to respect their right to accept it or not – understand your job is only to share wisdom, the final decision rests with them.

But what if you listen and realize that you can’t give them any helpful advice? That’s ok. You can still encourage them, pray with them, and perhaps point them towards someone else who can help them. It would be better to do this than to give them questionable advice because you are too proud or scared to admit you don’t know the answers either. Part of giving good advice is knowing your own limitations – recognize that and you’ll come full circle in understanding this lesson.

Don’t Wait, Use This Wisdom TODAY…

Pick a problem, any problem, then challenge yourself to ask someone you trust for advice.


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Get Wisdom! Get Wealth! (The Solomon Series)

Solomon’s 10th Commandment
Thou shalt use thy wisdom to acquire thy wealth, and thy wealth to acquire more wisdom.


(Editor’s note: This article is part of a series of life lessons that feature the wisdom of King Solomonvisit this page to see more)


The King is back and today’s lesson is one of the key pillars of his entire philosophy. I’d venture to say this little nugget was a big part of how Solomon became one of the richest men of his day and one of the wisest of all time.

Learn this wisdom yourself, apply it to your life, and you’ll surely put yourself on the path to living your best life now.

Wealth Comes from Wisdom

“By wisdom, a house is built, through understanding it is established, and through knowledge, its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” (Proverbs 24: 3-4)

Take a moment to let that sink in. I’ve read this quote from Solomon more times than I can count. It’s one of my all-time favorite proverbs and I actively try to live this principle as part of my daily routine. I’m hopeful that by sharing it with you today, you can make it a part of your life and soar to new heights.

Let’s dig deeper into this wisdom to unlock its mysteries. There’s a lot more than meets the eye with this quote. Consider the following…

Wisdom: The foundation

Without sufficient wisdom, everything you are building will be naught but a house of cards, doomed to fall when the storms of life inevitably come.

Build upon a solid foundation and you’ll increase your odds of success. Build on the shifting sands, or worse yet skip the foundation building stage, and your house will surely fall. This concept was so important that Jesus also warned us about the importance of building a solid foundation his parable about The Wise and Foolish Builders.

No matter what you’re building make wisdom your foundation. With wisdom in place, your house/financial portfolio/career/life will have its capstone in place from which you can confidently move forward. Without that basic foundation, you’ll flail around and eventually fold.

Understanding: The walls and roof.

Laying down a solid foundation is great, but it takes more than that alone to build a house. We need to erect the walls and a roof too. As you continue forwards, it’s important to keep learning, by doing so you’ll gain a new understanding that you can use to not just survive but thrive.

The result: you’ll firmly establish yourself, even as others fall by the wayside.

Why do so many people have so little savings? Why do most businesses fail? Why do so many give up on their dreams? Because most of us don’t take the time to establish a foundation based on wisdom, nor do we continue to invest in our understanding to advance our skill stack.

With a weak foundation and lack of advanced understanding, we become also-rans in the never-ending rat race of mediocrity. Our money sprouts wings and flies away. Our business loses out to competition. Our dreams fade.

But it doesn’t have to be this way — Solomon knew about these dangers and implored his readers to do something about it.

“Get Wisdom! Get Understanding!”

He wrote in Proverbs 4:5, for the wise king knew that these were the building blocks of long-term success, the keys to creating a lasting legacy.

Knowledge: The Treasure inside

Build with wisdom. Advance with Understanding. Continue to invest in yourself and eventually you’ll reach a stage of mastery where you’ll acquire special knowledge that will reward you with true prosperity. You’ll enjoy those rare and beautiful treasures that King Solomon was speaking about.

Does it take effort to acquire such knowledge? Certainly. But that’s the price that must be paid if you want to build a lasting legacy – one based on the time-tested pillars of Wisdom, Understanding, and Knowledge.

You can’t build a house like this overnight, but if you put to use these tools and have the patience to allow them time to work their magic in your life, you will be handsomely rewarded. You portfolio with become recession-proof, your career will prosper, your businesses will soar.

From Wisdom: Wealth

From a strictly financial point of view, we can use this wisdom to build wealth. For most of us, it takes time to build our family’s wealth. Relying on winning the lottery or get rich quick schemes is a recipe that will lead to poverty for most people because even if they work, any money you make will soon be gone. Solomon warned us about this too…

“Of what use is money in the hands of a fool since he has no desire to get wisdom?” (Proverbs 17:16)

Don’t be that fool. Instead, take the time to acquire wisdom before you chase after wealth. You’ll be glad you did. Learn about the benefits of budgeting, money management, saving, basic investing – this will be your foundation of wisdom. As you acquire some wealth, use it to gain even more wisdom. Invest in your financial education. Spend some money on surrounding yourself with trusted advisors (accountants, lawyers, financial planners, etc). Outsource menial tasks so you can get the highest ROI for your time.

Practice what you’ve learned, keep striving to learn more, and be disciplined and prudent, and over time your eyes will open to hidden knowledge that will help you truly understand how to make the most of your money so that you can live a life of financial freedom.

I’m not suggesting that you have to be super rich to be fulfilled, only that you should strive to have enough wisdom such that you are the ruler of your money and not vice versa – regardless of how much you earn, any of us can achieve this if we acquire the knowledge necessary to live in this manner.

It’s been proven time and time again – it’s not how much you make, but how much you keep. With wisdom, you can keep more of whatever you make so that you can enjoy the treasures of life that are most meaningful to you.

What is your Wealth?

Solomon’s wisdom applies to more than just finances or building the proverbial house. We could substitute any number of other endeavors – building a career, learning a sport/musical instrument, and even the concept of building the best version of YOU there can be. Let’s talk about the you in You.

If you want to live the best life possible, you’ll need to become the best YOU possible.

How do you build the best you?

By using wisdom to build a solid foundation within your life. Once you’ve done that, you can continue to learn about yourself and your world and gain the understanding you need to establish your place in life (for example discovering your mission or deciding what you want your life’s legacy to be all about).

Having built a foundation of wisdom by knowing yourself, and then gaining the understanding necessary to truly know your life’s mission, you’ll be on your way to living a life fulfilled – and when you take action each day to fulfill your mission, you’ll end up acquiring the deepest knowledge of all about yourself, that in turn, will start filling you with knowledge you could never have fathomed in the beginning: that rare and beautiful treasure will be YOU.

With wisdom as your guide, you’ll gain a sense of personal fulfillment and a conscious confidence that you are living your life’s destiny. Best of all, by becoming the best you possible, you’ll put yourself in a position to change the world by helping others too.

And it all starts with wisdom!

Whatever you are building, be sure to use Wisdom as your foundation. If you need help finding wisdom, just open King Solomon’s Book of Proverbs to pretty much any page, And I’m confident it will give you understanding that will improve your life!

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Honoring Wives and Mothers – Solomon’s Message

You may know The Book of Proverb’s for the pithy sayings and wisdom tips, but did you know that there’s a wonderful passage that honors wives and mothers? Consider the following from Proverbs: 31: 10-31

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

What do a Rooster, Lion, Goat, and King have in common?

Here’s a bit of humor from Proverbs…

“There are three things that are stately in their stride, four that move with stately bearing: a lion, mighty among beasts, who retreats before nothing; a strutting rooster, a he-goat, and a king with his army around him.” (Prov 30:29-31)

 

Did you know?
Although this saying is from Proverbs it’s not attributed to King Solomon, but instead it’s from Chapter 30 which is filled with “The Sayings of Agur.” There’s quite a bit of humor in this chapter as well as some very zen-like questions as well so be sure to check it out.

FOCUS on the right path in life and GOOD things will follow

Today’s lesson is another piece of wisdom from Solomon, who said in Proverbs 4: 23-27…

Above all else, GUARD YOUR HEART for it is the wellspring of your life. Put away perversity from your mouth, keep corrupt talk from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, FIX YOUR GAZE directly before you. Make LEVEL PATHS for your feet and take only ways that are fir. DO NOT SWERVE to the right or the left, KEEP YOUR FOOT from evil.

I added the emphasis in order to draw your attention to King Solomon’s commands — these words of wisdom are powerful instructions if we only listen. Solomon begins by telling us to guard our hearts from perversity and corruption (which I think most people will agree is common sense). But for me the real pearls are what follows – look straight ahead, fix your gaze, take level paths, do not swerve, keep our foot from evil – these are the secret to living the righteous life, the one that will put us on the path to freedom. It’s so simple — if we just DO IT.

Most of all I love the phrase “take only ways that are firm” – this applies to so much in life: from making wise investments, to prudent prepping against natural disasters, to finding the right job and friends in life so we don’t go off track. This wisdom has so much to offer it’s worth its wait in gold!

Is PERFECTION Your ENEMY?

Wouldn’t it be great if whatever we desired to achieve we could do perfectly?

It’s a nice thought, but unfortunately it’s rarely our reality. Yet, all too often we hold ourselves to unrealistic expectations. Tell me if this sounds like you — how many times have you said, “if I can’t do it perfectly, then I’m not going to do it at all.” I will admit that I’ve been guilty of this more times than I can count and I’ll bet that you have been too.

HOWEVER there’s a big problem with perfection – it’s possible that your desire for perfection is holding you back from accomplishing your goals and achieving some truly great things in life.

perfection

King Solomon recognized the dangers of trying to be perfect and/or to wait for external events to be ‘just right.’ Consider the following words of wisdom…

(Eccl 11:3-4) “If clouds are full of water, they pour rain…Whether a tree falls to the south or to the north, in the place where it falls, there it will lie. Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap.” (Don’t wait for things to be perfect, just get started and make the best of it).

(Prov 22:13) “The sluggard says there is a lion outside! or I will be murdered in the streets!” (You can always come up with an excuse, how about instead coming up with a reason to get moving?).

(Prov 14:23) “Hard work leads to profit, but mere talk only to poverty.” (Work brings results, talking doesn’t pay the bills).

(Eccl 5:7) “Much dreaming and many words are meaningless. therefore stand in awe of ACTION.” (You’ll never turn your dreams into a reality if you don’t take action).

What it is you want to achieve, don’t wait – DO SOMETHING to move forward today. The longer you wait the get started on your dreams, the farther away they will become – until eventually they may just fade away forever. But that doesn’t have to be you – because you have the power to do anything you set your mind to… all you have to do is GET STARTED.

Fear-of-FailureFor more on this topic, be sure to read…

Fail Your Way to Success, where you’ll read about specific examples of famous people like Michael Jordan, Thomas Edison, and may more who didn’t let perfection stop them from being great.

 

King Solomon’s Seven Pillars of How to Make Money

Life Lesson #23: You’ve got to Believe in order to Achieve

Today’s lesson is a continuation of King Solomon’s advice on acquiring wealth and good money management. This is Part 2 of our series – it’s about how to make money using the Seven Pillars of Solomon. BTW, if you have not yet read Part 1 of the Solomon Series be sure to do so now. And be sure to read all the way to the bottom to learn how you can get a cool freebie called “The 10 Commandments of Solomon.”

Did You Know?

Solomon’s books (especially Proverbs and Ecclesiastes) are filled with tips on how to build wealth and once again I’m encouraging you to read them for yourself; do that and you’ll really add to your knowledge base! Meanwhile, I’ve picked out 7 tips from the king for our discussion today.


Solomon’s Seven Pillars of How to Make Money

Solomon How to Make Money

  1. Don’t rush it, instead make a good plan.
    • (Prov 21:5) “The plans of the diligent lead to profit, as surely as haste leads to poverty.”
    • I know, I know – we already talked about planning in Part 1, right? Yes, that’s true, but this lesson is so important it bears reminding you of it.
    • In addition, this little tip is actually filled with lots of advice. Besides the importance of the plan, there is an important warning – don’t be hasty with your money! That means don’t go investing in ‘get rich quick’ schemes you see on late night tv, don’t start trying to flip houses without knowing what you are doing first, and don’t let someone con you into a “sure thing” like a multi-level marketing company that sounds too good to be true. Remember, slow and steady builds wealth, not hastiness.
    • Furthermore, this tip tells us that not only do you need a good plan, but you need to work that plan too. After all, anybody can make a plan, but not everybody will follow-through with it. Be sure to TAKE ACTION on your plan – be diligent, be consistent, and you will build wealth.
  2. Pursue multiple income streams.
    • (Eccl 11:6) “Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let your hands not be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that, or whether both will do equally well.”
    • Who said you can only have one job? Why limit yourself to just one stream of income? After all, if that fails, then what will you do? Now please understand I’m NOT telling you to go about and get multiple jobs (if you really want to do that, go for it), instead I’m telling you to build multiple income streams — ideally passive income streams.
    • What’s a passive income stream? It’s a way for you to collect money without having to put in additional time and effort. Who doesn’t want that?
    • So how do you do it? The options are endless. Passive income generation can come from things like getting paid for your videos on YouTube (my son Jax and I have made thousands of dollars this way), writing a book and collecting royalties, owning a bunch of cash-flow positive rental properties, earning interest on your investments, writing a computer program and selling it to collect royalties, making an album for your band and selling it, etc, etc. The possibilities are endless.
    • There’s nothing wrong with having a primary job (I still do) and using that as the source of your income, but why not have some other ways to get money too? Think about it. Then take action to create some.
  3. Don’t be lazy.
    • (Prov 20:13) “Do not love sleep or you will grow poor; stay awake and you will have food to spare.”
    • This one is pretty simple so I won’t spend a lot of time on it. You want to be lazy? Don’t expect to be rich. Are you willing to work your plan and pursue your dreams? Then you’ll acquire wealth. It’s that simple.
  4. Take action!
    • (Prov 14:23) “Hard work leads to profit, but mere talk only to poverty.”
    • AFTER you’ve come up with a good plan, it’s time to take action. Don’t get me wrong, there is value in taking your time to build a good plan, but sooner or later you’ve got to DO something.
    • If all you ever do is sit around and talk about what you’re going to do, but you never actually DO anything, then you’ll never build wealth. It takes meaningful action, consistent effort, and a stick-to-it mindset to achieve your dreams.
    • Don’t let the ‘desire to be perfect’ stop you from taking action – if you’ve built a good plan then get started on it, you can always tweak it later if you need to.
  5. Be hungry.
    • (Prov 16:26) “A laborer’s appetite works for him, his hunger drives him on.”
    • When I grew up I was a big fan of the Rocky movies. If you remember Rocky III, you’ll know the famous “Eye of the Tiger” song.
    • But do you remember the lesson of that song? During the movie, Rocky actually LOST a fight and didn’t know what to do next. His friend Apollo Creed explained the solution, “You lost that fight for all the wrong reasons. You lost your edge…the truth is you didn’t look hungry. Now when we fought, you had that eye of the tiger, man, the edge. And now you gotta get it back, and the way to get it back is to go back to the beginning.” With the help of Apollo, Rocky re-discovered his hunger and went on to regain his title as the greatest fighter in the world.
    • That same lesson can work for you too. You’ve got to WANT IT – you’ve got to have passion for what your goals are. In short, you’ve got to be hungry! When you are hungry, you take action because you know if you don’t take action, then you won’t eat. It’s just like in the wild – if an animal is hungry and wants to eat, they have to go out and hunt for their food. You need to do the same. Be hungry. Stay hungry. That’s a recipe for success.
  6. Pursue what you’re good at.
    • (Prov 28:19) “He who works his land will have abundant food, but the one who chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.”
    • I realize this one might sound contradictory to #2, but if you think about it further it’s not. This quote is not telling us we only have to have one job (or one income stream), it’s simply telling us not to chase wild fantasies (those ‘get rich quick’ schemes, etc I warned you about).
    • In addition, this quote is also NOT telling us we can’t pursue our dreams – even if they may sound like fantasies to others. Remember, God has given you certain unique talents. Perhaps you are good with computer games? Or maybe you can play the violin like a pro? Or maybe you want to be an astronaut? Many people might actually tell you to get your head out of the clouds and find a job in ‘the real world’ by becoming an accountant, or a lawyer, or a fireman. All of those are great occupations and if that’s you’re passion, then go for it. However if your passion lies elsewhere, then I believe you need to follow that road instead.
    • We’ll talk more about this in lesson #3 — use the gifts God has given you and not only will you be happier, but you’ll be more successful too.
    • Become an expert in your field and the money will find you. That’s not chasing fantasy; that’s working the land that God gave you to work.
  7. Make money work for you.
    • (Eccl 11:1) “Cast your bread upon the waters, for you will find it after many days; give a portion to seven, or even to eight, for you do not know what disaster may fall upon the earth.”
    • For most people, the path to wealth comes from acquiring money, living prudently, and investing wisely so their money can grow over time. Money safely grows when you invest it in financially-stable companies that grow the value of their stock and pay a dividend (return) to you as the investor. Obviously there’s more to it than that but for the purposes of this lesson, that’s the key for now.
    • Just as importantly is this nugget – don’t put all your eggs in one basket – diversify your money. Invest it in different companies in different industries. That way if something bad happens in one area, you’ll be safe in another. Remember the sad lesson of the Enron employees – so many of them had all their retirement savings invested 100% in the company stock – unfortunately they didn’t know that their bosses were cheating the system and ultimately the company crashed – taking with it all the money of those employees as well. Don’t make that mistake.
    • Manage your money wisely by putting it in a variety of different things – perhaps you have some stock, some real estate, some gold, etc, etc. Keep track of it. Make sure the investments meet YOUR plan’s goals. Then be patient and watch it grow.

 

Don’t Wait, Use This Wisdom Today to Make Money

Look at the 7 pillars from today’s lesson – which one means the most to you?

Do yourself a favor and think about how you can use this knowledge to make yourself some money.

Action Item: write out a plan and then take action — remember nothing is going to happen if you don’t DO something about it, so get started now…


That’s the end of Lesson 2. If you want to read more of the Solomon Series, visit these links:

https://thathelpfuldad.com/king-solomons-tips-on-money-management-part-1/

https://thathelpfuldad.com/king-solomon-5-money-myths-how-many-are-you-guilty-of/

https://thathelpfuldad.com/wisdom-of-solomon/


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