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The “SMART” Morning Routine – Built for Working Men and Women

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It’s Fast, it’s flexible and it will supercharge your life – it’s The SMART Morning Routine!

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Morning Routine – The Problem

Most AM Rituals require 2-4 hours to complete – most working men and women don’t have this kind of time in the morning. Do you?

Morning Routine – The Solution

The SMART Morning Routine can be completed in a little as 30 minutes and still provide the majority of benefits of longer rituals. How does that sound?

The Dilemma of The Working Class

Morning Routines are all the rage these days – Tim Ferris, Hal Elrod, Benjamin Hardy and many more profess their greatness. Quite frankly there are a LOT of great AM Rituals on the web and I’m thankful to these key opinion leaders who’ve shared their ideas.

Unfortunately what I noticed is that many of the most popular morning routines require a long time to complete – that’s a big problem for working men and women like me who still have 9–5 type jobs, families, and a host of demands on our time.

So what do you do when you still want to enjoy the benefits of a morning routine but don’t have the time?

Simple – create a “S-M-A-R-T” Morning Routine.

The SMART Morning Routine is an AM Ritual for the rest of us :  one that fits our busy lives AND still provides us the key benefits of the Morning Routine exercise.

Don’t get me wrong, I would love to be in a position where I can spend 2–4 hours every morning turning myself into the Uber-Human of my dreams. Who wouldn’t want to meditate for 30–60 minutes, workout for an hour, spend another hour thinking about a bucket list item, spend another 1.5 hours being creative, and taking time to enjoy a nutritious breakfast? I’d love the luxury of being able to do all those things, and if I did,  I’m 100% certain my life would improve.

But let’s face it, most of us ‘worker bees’ are not yet in a position to spend 4 hours each morning on our AM Rituals — we need routines which are both realistic and achievable for us. We need a Morning Routine that is S-M-A-R-T (specific/simple, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound).

In this article I’ll share my exact plan for how to create your own SMART Morning Routine. 

Morning Routine – The Video

The SMART Morning Routine – A Summary

The SMART Morning Routine involves starting the day with as little as 30 minutes of alone time designed to take your productivity to the next level and beyond.

It’s kind of like Abraham Lincoln’s advice about chopping down a tree (you remember that saying, right?)

“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I’ll spend the first four sharpening my ax.”

In this case, the ax to be sharpened is YOU – and we’ll do it in a lot less time too!

By taking just a half hour so-so and doing these two big bucket items, the SMART Morning Routine leaves you a ‘complete’ person, eager to attack the day because you have already completed a few tasks that made you feel great AND you have a clear-eyed vision on what you want to do. Thus you can immediately move forward — already in a highly productive mindset. You feel like you are already a success and that confidence is half the battle to a winning the day.

The SMART Morning Routine

The SMART Morning Routine Put Me Back on Track

I had a big problem last year.

I let myself get uber-busy in with “busybody work” and for a time it took me off my life’s path. Thankfully I read a book called Tools of Titans by Tim Ferris and the wisdom there set me straight (Thanks, Tim!).

I was somebody who already had a morning routine, but over the years it got less and less productive because it lacked balance (it was essentially all work-focused and not ‘me’ focused). I used Tim’s ideas to reset my routine and eventually develop the “SMART AM Ritual.”

Now, by consistently completing the SMART Morning Routine, I’m supercharging my productivity (for work, play, and life) while also actively making myself a better person again.

The result: I’m back on track to My Life’s Journey.

The SMART Morning Routine

My S-M-A-R-T Morning Routine involves 6-7 steps and 30-60 minutes depending on how I feel each morning. It’s highly flexible so I encourage you to modify it to meet your own goals. 

Here’s what I do…

1 — Control…Something

(Time Investment: 1–2 minutes)

One little thing — it doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t matter what it is — just get it done.

It could be making a bed, it could be organizing your desk, it could be anything.

It takes all of 1–2 minutes but…it’s one thing DONE.

This is especially helpful for Type-A personalities — when you can control what you can control, and get that 1 easy take completed first thing in the morning, it becomes a success (dare I say “S-M-A-R-T?”) building block that propels you forward into the day — and it makes you feel like “Yes, I can do this!”

And just like that Task #1 is done!

2 — Prime the Body

(Time Investment: 3–5 minutes)

First I do a round of Sun Salutations — this simple yoga routine takes just a few minutes and starts the process of connecting the body with the mind. BTW if you are new to Yoga and want some guidance, there is a great FREE app called “Track Yoga” — it will guide you through the Sun Salutations (with pointers on how to do it right). As a side note, Track Yoga is one of the recommended tools in my 2018 Essential Guide to Awesomeness

Bonus Tip: Although I’d love to be able to go outside to do my Sun Salutations, that’s not realistic for me yet so I have a couple pics of sunrises hanging on my office wall — they are pics I took myself and they bring me joy by reminding me of special moments in my life. Here’s one…

Next, I do 10 reps of something — pushups, jumping jacks, air punches. Just 10. It’s not a workout, it’s just to get the body ready to go — kind of like priming an engine before you start it. You’ll be surprised how this gets the blood flowing in the right direction.

(OK, for you Seinfeld fans, I’d be remiss if I didn’t give a shout out to Kenny Bania who famously said on the show, “I start out with curls. That’s good for the bicep. I do 10 reps, 2 sets…” After all, everything relates back to Seinfeld, right? Apparently even the Morning Routine).

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3 — Add some Caffeine

(Time Investment: 0)

One cup of black coffee (with cinnamon) does the trick for me. It allows me to keep my intermittent (read: 14–16 hour) fasting going while giving me the energy I need to move through the morning. (Why cinnamon, you wonder? Cinnamon is a natural blood sugar regulator).

This single cup of coffee gives me energy that lasts until I break my fast around 10 am (from about 6 pm the night before). Quick note — the time ‘cost’ is zero because you drink the coffee while doing the remaining tasks.

4 — Prime the Mind

(Time Investment: 10–15 minutes)

I’m all for wisdom. I try to be consciously open to acquiring wisdom from trusted sources (and that includes my own mind). Ever since reading Tony’s Awaken the Giant Within years ago, I’ve been a fan of journaling. I believe in Tony’s adage…

“If you life is worth living it’s worth recording.”

Unfortunately in recent years I let the ‘chores of life’ get in the way of my journaling — foolishly believing that “I didn’t have time to journal” (ah, big misconception — as the Buddhist would say, ‘if you don’t have time for journaling, then you need to journal right now”). Thankfully Tim’s Tools of Titans book reminded me of the benefits and now I’m back with a vengeance.

The Morning Journal is a KEY Part of the AM Ritual

My current version of AM Journal varies depending on the day.

First I write in my journal.

  • Sometimes I remind myself what am I grateful for (opportunities, something from yesterday, something beautiful I see, etc). Sometimes it’s thinking about specific positive-focused questions like…
    • “What would make today great?”
    • “What would set me up for success?”
  • Other times I write to just clear my mind of a problem or even complain a bit about something to release my frustration (it helps!). When I do this exercise I try to focus on ‘free form’ writing — don’t think, just write — let your mind release its contents (kind of like when Hooper and Chief opened up the guts of the shark on “Jaws”). You never know what you’ll find, but it’s amazing what’s in there. (And no, I haven’t found a license plate from LA yet).
  • Other times I don’t write in my journal, but instead, exercise what Tim calls the “Idea Muscle” — basically think of a question like…
    • “What Makes me Content?”
    • “What’s my Bucket List now?”
    • “How can I better focus my time to spend more of it on my life goals?”
    • “How can I spend money to save time?”
    • And then think of 10+ quick answers/ideas for these questions.

After the journal writing, I think of 3 Affirmations for the day.

These are one liners that I want to speak to myself that focus me for the day. Here are some from yesterday…

  • “I am vibrantly healthy in mind, body, and spirit.
  • I am happy — I smile a lot and am content with life.
  • I don’t need lots of money, possessions, or career accolades to be happy — I don’t need recognition from others to be happy — I am happy because I am alive, my family loves me, and the world is a beautiful place with lots of things to do.”
  • If you want to know more about the power of affirmations, check out my article: https://thathelpfuldad.wpmudev.host/79-affirmations-that-will-transform-your-reality/

Finally, I incorporate Tim/Tony’s “3 To Thrive” productivity tool.

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What is Three to Thrive?

  • Three to Thrive involves writing down 3 action items that are the most important things for me this day. 3 items that, if I accomplish these but nothing else, will still make the day a ‘win.’
  •  It goes without saying that the sooner in the day you start working on your 3 items, the better chance you have to be successful — having this focus early on in the day, can set you up for success.

Once I have this done (and it sounds like a lot but only takes about 10–15 minutes) then I really start focusing on my breathing.

I began this a bit earlier with the sun salutations but now I take it to the next level — breathing deeply while repeating my affirmations (3+ times for each one) and then continuing the breathing exercise while I visualize the “3 to Thrive” actions as already completed.

Let’s spend a moment on this because it’s kind of important. It’s one thing to write down a few affirmations and goals for the day (and if you are not already doing this then just adding them to your morning routine can make a difference), but if you want to get to the next level, then…

Just as importantly as identifying these affirmations and goals, is taking a few minutes to visualize yourself ‘living’ them.

Here’s what I mean:

  • For the affirmations, use the breath to make the affirmations feel real inside you, as a part of you, nay as ALL of you. Be the affirmation.
  • For the goals, take some time to focus on each goal, understand why it’s important to you, and then use the breath to get your mind to focus on what it will feel like after you have achieved your goals for the day (“I’m Batman!”).
  • This psycho-cybernetics step is one of the keys to success because by putting yourself in the ‘already achieved’ mindset half the work is done — the first step on your journey has already been taken, the rest is just continuing the inertia in the same direction until you cross the finish line again (a finish line you’ve already crossed in your mind). You’ll be surprised how this little tweak in the process can rocket your accomplishments to success because of the consistency is adds to your productivity!
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5 — Prime the Soul

(Time Investment: 5–10 minutes)

While continuing the breathing routine, I’ll now complete the process of connecting the body and mind with the soul by ‘seeking wisdom’ from external sources. Here I like to read a chapter from Proverbs and one of The Gospels, and then a verse from The Tao Te Ching. All the while I am focusing on calm breathing.

It’s kind of like an active meditation experience. It’s the top of the pyramid of the ‘priming’ stage and makes me feel connected to (as Douglas Adams would say), Life, the Universe, and Everything.

6 — Pursue Your Passion NOW

(Time Investment: 10–30 minutes)

Like many of you I have a passion, one of my Legacy Life goals is writing.

It’s a passion that brings me contentment, excitement, and makes life fun.

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What do I write about?

So far I’ve written a biblical ‘end of the world’ novel called The Last Temptation of John, a non-fiction book on how Minecraft teaches life lessons with my son Jax called Diary of a Minecraft Dad, and a non-fiction book about investing in options with my friend Michael Thomsett (the world’s #1 writer on options education) called The Options Alchemist.

I’m currently writing 2 more books. One is a book about the life lessons I’ve learned from my Yorkshire terrier Sassy (who passed away from the world much too soon) — her book is called A Life Worth Living. The other is a series of fantasy novels (think JRR Tolkien meets The Bible meets conspiracy theories) called A Grim Future?

If you’d like to read any of them, I’d be happy to give you a complimentary copy — just use my contact form and let me know which one you’d like to read.

The point is that even though writing is very important to me, I kept allowing it to take second place to the typical day-to-day tasks that we worker bees face all too often.

As a result, my writing floundered.

Luckily I realized that if I add it to my morning routine, I can make sure I get a chance to do it every day. Here again, I’m borrowing wisdom from Tim Ferris..

Even if I only write 2 ‘crappy’ pages per day it’s still a win.

Why? because it gets my writing muscle exercised and gives me a chance to write a lot more too. Even if I only write for 10 minutes, I can still get 2 crappy pages in — and that’s a win because it means I’m still making progress, 2 pages at a time. Better yet, I’ve found that just getting started often leads me to continue to write beyond just 10 minutes — sometimes I write more during the AM Ritual, sometimes I write later in the day. 

The point is that I get so excited by the process of writing every day that I stay ‘in the zone’ far more often than I ever did before. That’s an even bigger win!

What’s YOUR Passion?

Whatever it may be, make sure your SMART Morning Routine includes some time for it. 

7 — 3 To Thrive Completed?

(Time Investment: 2–3 minutes)

This is actually a question I circle back to later in the day.

I like to come back to my AM Journal at the end of the day (or I sometimes do it as part of the AM Journal the following day) and evaluate how I did — just a quick sentence or 3 to follow-up on the day and see if I did what I set out to do or if I missed the mark (and why), so that I do better tomorrow.

This is the full circle technique that is the beginning of the Am Ritual for the next day of the journey.

And that, my friends, is the SMART Morning Routine?

What do you think?

Concerned about your time?

I can appreciate that. Here’s my advice.

First off, if you are keeping track the total time investment for the SMART Morning Routine is 31–63 minutes. Surely that is realistic and achievable for you, right?

If you do not currently have this time in your busy schedule, then I would challenge you to do what I did to make time: as cliche as it sounds, all you have to do is get up 30–60 minutes earlier.

I’ll be honest with you — for the first 47 years of my life, I hated getting up early. If I was up before 7 am I was grumpy. But, I decided to go all in on the Morning Ritual Tim suggested, and to give myself time, I started getting up at 630am.

What do you know, it worked for me. Now I am so in love with this routine (because I can SEE the results) that I usually get up at 6 am — and I usually can’t wait to get out of bed!

You’ll be surprised at how much your productivity for the entire day improves when you invest just 30–60 minutes in some morning “ME” time.

Following this process has led me to dramatic improvements in my productivity of important tasks (AKA the 3 to Thrive items), my writing (much more regular), reduction in stress, and giving me a reason to get up earlier to attack the day.

I’m grateful to have been exposed to this wisdom and I wanted to share it with you too in the hopes that it will make your life better too. Obviously, your routine won’t be the same as mine, but perhaps I’ve given you some ideas to add to your own ritual. If so, that’s a win in my book.

The SMART Morning Routine – It’s Not Rocket Science

No, but it’s simple, it’s quick, it’s incredibly easy to do AND if you follow this plan consistently, it can make a real difference for you — even if you are still a busy worker bee like me.

That’s the measure of true wisdom in my book — practical solutions that you can use to make meaningful change in your life.

The SMART Morning Routine worked for me. It can work for you too!

Give it a try and let me know if it helps you. 

Foto Friday – Folk Music in Strasbourg – Simple Beauty

There is beauty everywhere…if you only look. This pic was taken near the Cathedral of Notre Dame in Strasbourg, France. The area is filled with tourists and not surprisingly there were numerous hawkers working hard to get people to notice them.

And then there was this woman with her beaten guitar.

She didn’t call out. She didn’t beg people to come see her. She didn’t do anything to try to win people’s attention. She simply sat down in an out of the way corner of the square and sang her songs.

And it was so heart-wrenchingly beautiful that it stopped me in my tracks.

My time was limited. Like so many other tourists I had a long shopping list of souvenirs to buy and sights to see. I had a schedule to keep if I wanted to ‘see it all.’ Yet this woman’s music made me forget all that. It mesmerized me. It drew me in. So I just stopped… and listened.

At first, I had visions of discovering the next Natalie Merchant.

Perhaps I can be her agent and take her on a whirlwind tour around the world? We’ll get rich in the process!

It didn’t matter that I didn’t speak the language, or that I had no experience as a music rep, etc. because surely the greatness of this woman’s music would overcome all that if I could just help her get it out to the world. Focused on this goal, I began preparations to film what I knew would be a surefire viral video, already planning how I would publicize it and respond to all the appearance requests.

Thankfully that illusion quickly faded – driven away by the music itself.

 

Don’t think. Don’t Plan.

Just Listen. Just Be.

I can’t tell you how long I stayed in that spot listening to this vagabond singer. Other people came and went – most not even stopping long enough to catch a full song. Yet still, I stayed. Eventually, the woman began to pack up her guitar. I’d already thrown a few euro’s into her kitty earlier and as she got ready to leave I tossed in a bunch more. Yet it wasn’t enough. Even though I didn’t speak French, I wanted to make the singer understand how great she was. I wanted to explain how much her music had affected me. I wanted to encourage her to do more than just play for pennies in a forgotten corner of this mall for uncaring tourists. I wanted her to–

The singer’s eyes stopped me. She knew what I’d felt in the moments she played. She knew because…

Beauty has a way of sensing the eye of the beholder. 

And so it was that the singer eventually rode away on her bike, a smile on her face. It wasn’t money or fame she sought, simply the chance to contribute her verse to the great play of life — and what a beautiful verse it was.

It’s been nearly 3 years since I took this pic, yet still, the music plays in my mind. I smile, grateful that the singer sang her songs, grateful that I was there in that moment to hear them, grateful that I have the chance to tell you about them too.

If you ever find yourself in Strasbourg, visiting Notre Dame – look to the left, to that out of the way nook just off the main square, away from the crowds. Perhaps the singer is still there, still playing, waiting for you…

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Foto Friday: The FeeJee Mermaid?

Have you ever heard of the FeeJee Mermaid?

It’s Foto Friday again and today is certainly a weird one! Mermaids? FeeJee? What gives?

I have to admit I hadn’t heard of the legends of the FeeJee Mermaid until very recently but did you know the mystery dates all the way back to 1842 and has quite a following? The picture you see here is from The Adams Family Travelling Medicine Show — their mermaid exhibit and other oddities were on display at The Brookville Raid of 2018.

I’m not here to suggest you buy into this conspiracy (unless of course, you want to!) but I do think there is some wisdom to be found here. Most notably is the quote in the pic from Ben Franklin…

“Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.”

So I guess the question is – what half does the FeeJee Mermaid fall in to? Are you gonna believe it?

Meanwhile, here’s another question for you: what do Stevie Wonder, Michael Jordan, and Abe Lincoln have in common? Discover the answer to that question and more in this article: The Power of Perspective.


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Development Follows Demand – But Are You Demanding Enough of Yourself?

We know from our prior discussions that failure is not something to be feared and that failures themselves are not the end of the road. Today I want to share some additional insights with you that relate to the topic of Failure and Self-Development.

Development follows Demand

Think of any goal you want to accomplish and you’re in essence thinking of a scenario involving development. Obviously, we all know that development doesn’t happen overnight. Yet all too often we get frustrated when development doesn’t happen as quickly as we would like [my hand is raised here] and we get discouraged when failure seems to be our only ‘accomplishment.’

If this sounds like you too, take hope. A slight change in mindset could be the solution you need to open new pathways to success.

Recognize the following truths

 

  1. Allow your development to occur as a result of ‘progressive’ demand.

Instead of trying to climb to the top of the mountain in one day, ask yourself to do it in stages.

Push yourself to the upper limits of your current comfort zone each day and then just a teensy-bit over.

Do this consistently over time and your comfort zone (and your ability to achieve) will gradually expand.

 

 

2. Don’t ignore your comfort zone, but recognize that comfort zones CAN change over time.

It’s important to be aware of your comfort zone and to challenge yourself here, but if you put undue expectations on yourself and push yourself too far, too fast with unrealistic expectations, then you’re setting yourself up for discouragement. Remember the classic goal-setting acronym “SMART” — goals should be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound. Use SMART goals that will help you expand your comfort zone over time — it may take a little longer, but you’ll increase your chances of success in the long run.

3. Development is a river of little failures.

As you challenge yourself to expand your comfort zone, undoubtedly you will fail along the way. But rather than be discouraged, use all these little failures as stepping stones along the way to reaching your goals.

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Try It

Put this wisdom to the test: pick a goal you want to achieve and see if it works.

For example, let’s say you want to be able to do XX number of pushups. Start today by just doing 1 or 2, then tomorrow try for 3–4, and so on gradually until you reach your goal. You may find you can’t immediately achieve the next step(s) every day and that some days your progress is better than others — that’s ok and is to be expected.

Don’t focus so much on the end goal; instead focus on the process.

Remember the old adage “Life is about the journey, not just the destination” — use this mindset as you expand your comfort zone over time, and by accepting failure just a natural part of the developmental process, you’ll turn what you thought were barriers on the path to reaching your goal into road signs that signify important progress markers on the journey to your dreams.

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Wait, You Mean the Sky is NOT Falling?

Hitchhiking with Chicken Little

Lesson #102: When faced with a problem, rather than act rashly and increase your odds of doing something stupid, instead THINK and ACT from a position of wisdom.

Today’s Life Lesson was inspired by Douglas Adams (author of The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy) who sums up our lesson with two simple words (1)…

Don’t Panic!

Sage wisdom for the Chicken Little in your life.

 

Ah, Mike, the Sky is still falling!

Don’t Panic? Great. I feel so empowered — not.

Come on, Mike, I got a Chicken Little situation here. I need help. I need some water. I need some air. Who took my towel. Heeeeeeelp!

Slow down there, cowboy. Take a breath. Let’s worth through this together.

We face new challenges every day, and that’s going likely to change. But here’s the good news — the sky is actually not falling. You have time to catch your breath. You have time to think.

How you view your problems and how you react to them will make all the difference.

  • Do you see your challenges for what they appear to be on the surface — as difficult obstacles designed to stop you?
  • Or do you see them for what they could be if you look a little harder — as new opportunities you can use to your advantage?
  • Do you react hastily and just try to bulldoze your way through the challenge?
  • Or do you take a moment to think first in order to come up with multiple options?

My goal here is to help you understand that how you react to your problems can mean the difference between capitalizing on an opportunity or making another foolish error and missing out…like Chicken Little.

How about an Example?

This is a bit tongue in cheek but amuse me for a moment since my 8-year old son Jax likes it….

Remember that time back in school (for me it was a loooooong time ago!) when your teacher sprang a surprise assignment on you in English class?

Teacher: “Mikey, I want you to give a presentation to the class next week about Abe Lincoln.”

“Ah, ok, Mrs. Wimpydimple.” You replied — totally bummed out at the thought of giving a speech. So went home and cursed life upset that you were now going to have this presentation ‘thing’ hanging over your head all weekend.

Doing your best Chicken Little impression you panicked out the wazoo. But after an hour or two — when you realized this ‘thing’ wasn’t going away — you decided you had to come up with a plan.

After giving it some thought, you came up with the following options:

  1. Get pissed off, decide not to do the presentation, play Super Mario (2) instead, and just take an F on the assignment.
  2. Realize that you have more than a week to come up with your presentation so you do a little bit each day to prepare for it. (First step — who the heck is this Abe Lincoln guy anyway?)
  3. Agree to do the assignment but play Super Mario all weekend and just do everything for the presentation on the day before it’s due.
  4. Something else — most likely involving playing Super Mario.

Let’s explore the options you had at the time.

  • Option A: If you chose this, you’d likely have had a hard time convincing the teacher (and your parents) that it was the correct decision — oh sure, you could have made this decision, but even back then you knew the consequences of it were probably not going to turn out well for you. As a result, you thought twice about picking this choice.
  • Option C: It was the same for this choice— at least this option was a bit better than Option A, and you knew you likely wouldn’t fail the assignment, but you also knew you probably wouldn’t score very high either. Sure you could have worked on your Mario skills, but you knew that waiting till the last minute would have put a lot of unnecessary stress on you — trying to finish the school assignment in a rush? It didn’t take a rocket scientist to know what wouldn’t be fun. Try again.
  • Option B: Even back then, you knew this was obvious ‘right’ answer (or at least the one your teacher and parents would have wanted you to choose).True, you didn’t like the fact that your teacher gave you a surprise assignment, but you were smart enough to realize it’s just a part of life. So you chose to go with this plan. As the week unfolded you discovered that by doing just a little each day in a calm manner, not only did you gain confidence that the presentation preparation would be easy, but also you discovered that you still had plenty of time to play Mario, and even enjoy the weekend with your friends. When the day came to give the presentation, you were confident and calm — knowing you were well prepared. The result: you knocked the presentation out of the park.
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OK, so maybe your younger self wasn’t really that smart (I know that I wasn’t). Maybe you let your Chicken Little self-control you a bit (read: a lot!) longer than just a couple hours. But I like to think that sooner or later you made the right choice. So kudos to your younger self!

What’s the Takeaway?

Adversity happens to all of us and things don’t always go our way. However, if you can stop for a moment and just breath, you’ll soon realize that you have options.

Don’t panic.

Pick a plan.

Take action.

Gain confidence.

Realize the sky is actually not falling.

Follow-through with your plan to the end.

Gain more confidence.

Win.

Wait, what about Option D?

Ah, Option D. Yes, we almost forget that.

So, should your younger self have just eliminated that this one like you did with Options A and C? Not necessarily.

This was actually my son Jackson’s choice when we talked about this lesson. After listening to his arguments, I’d let him sell me on the idea that he should be allowed to play Minecraft and create a giant Abe Lincoln statue in Creative Mode, because he could then use that as part of his presentation!

Jax used Option D to show some outside the box thinking. (Can you say “Proud Papa?).

Perhaps Option D is the best option of all. Think about it for a moment: you spend a bit of time making sure your presentation is strong and then you add the Minecraft statue into the mix. Can you say ‘extra credit, baby?’

Indeed, if you choose Option D, you get to have your cake and eat it too.

And suddenly life isn’t so hard.

Wait, where did Chicken Little run off to? Oh, it seems he went hitchhiking again…

Mike’s Notes:

  1. The simple phrase “Don’t Panic” is actually on the front page of Adams’ famous book. As Adams amusedly writes, “Despite its many glaring (and occasionally fatal) inaccuracies, the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy itself has outsold the Encyclopedia Galactica because it is slightly cheaper, and because it has the words ‘DON’T PANIC’ in large, friendly letters on the cover.” How appropriate for our discussion. Unfortunately I don’t think Chicken Little ever got a copy.
  2. In 2018 Super Mario would of course be substituted with Minecraft or Roblox, but shockingly Mario is still hanging on isn’t he? I’m sure there’s a lesson in there somewhere.

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The Path to Serenity

Fill your bowl to the brim
and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife
and it will blunt.
Chase after money and comfort
and your heart will never unclench.
Care about other people’s approval
and you will be there prisoner.

Do your work, then let it be.
This is the path to Serenity.

 

Today’s wisdom comes to us again from Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching — this is “stanza 9′ and it gives us important reminders about what happens when we lose balance and focus on the wrong things in life.

Want to find serenity?

It’s not about possessions or status – look inside for the answers you seek and see that peace comes from being content with what you already have. 

The Broken Goblet is YOU

Love, love, love this little story a friend shared with me. Tell me what you think about it…

“You see this goblet?” asks the meditation master. “For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”

All of us are that (soon to break) glass. We know Death is inevitable. It is coming and while we may not be able to stop it, what we can do is use that knowledge to our advantage. We’ve talked many times about how we can’t live in the past or the future, only the present. THIS MOMENT is all we have – cherish it. Be present. Enjoy your time here. Share your life with your loved ones and savor every drop of it. LIVE NOW. That’s the path to building a life worth living.

You can’t rush greatness

A friend of mine told me this story about patience…

A martial arts student went to his teacher and said earnestly, “I am devoted to studying your martial system. How long will it take me to master it.”

The teacher’s reply was casual, “Ten years.”

Impatiently, the student answered, “But I want to master it faster than that. I will work very hard. I will practice everyday, ten or more hours a day if I have to. How long will it take then?”

The teacher thought for a moment, “20 years.”

Too often we try to rush through life and force things to happen before their time, when in reality, what we need is patience and the willingness to let life unfold at its own pace. King Solomon also spoke on this topic when he gave the following piece of advice (Prov 19:2) “It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way.”

Slow down. Listen more. Be willing to watch and learn. Take advice. Be patient. These are steps along the path to wisdom.

 

Today is Eternity

Here’s an quote that struck me as interesting. Tell me what you think….

Today means boundless and inexhaustible eternity. Months, years, and all periods of time are merely concepts of men, who gauge everything by the number, but the true name of our eternity is Today
Philo of Alexandria

 

We’ve talked about this concept in the past – TODAY, this very moment, is the only period during which you are actually alive. Understand this and make the most of each and every moment you’re blessed with on this earth.